Tonight my husband pinned me up against the wall, slammed my head against the kitchen cabinets, and then threw me to the ground. It hurt, but was not enough to leave a mark. I am thankful my kids were not there to see it.
Tonight was not the first time he’s been violent towards me, but it’s definitely the worst it has ever been. We’ve been married 12 years. He’s hit me or been violent towards me 8 times throughout our marriage, including tonight.
My question is, why do I immediately think of killing myself after he hits me? Why don’t I have the strength to stand up for myself? Why do I want to hurt myself when this happens? He sees this and feels his actions were justified. He says that I push him to hit me because I want to be hurt. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
i should add that am safe now and we are in the process of separating.
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I’m glad you’re safe. At least for tonight.
My first thought is that you think of killing yourself because you are looking for an escape and that seems obvious. I’m brainstorming so I could be way off.
I hope you’re able to get your children and get away from him. For good.
any man that hits a woman is a p*ssy. Please call the cops if he does it again. It’s the only way he will learn
He thinks he’s right and doesn’t let you state your opinion because he’s probably stronger than you are. Maybe you should’ve tried to fight him back, although it could result in worse injuries. You want to kill yourself because you’re afraid to execute your wish to fight him back. I don’t know who’s right in your situation. Maybe you have really annoyed your husband. Seems like your husband isn’t smart and knowledgeable. Good luck with your divorce. Wish you well!
You don’t have to stand up to him, you just need to dial 3 numbers on your phone. Problem solved. I don’t mean to be dismissive of your plight, but it’s really as simple as calling the cops, unless you can explain to me why you can’t?
Simple, file a domestic violence claim to the court. This is your most common case of domestic violence. Oh he will get his share, you will know. He will have that on him forever and he can never throw you around again. Easy to do as easy as I have said.
I’m relieved to know you are safe and leaving that poor excuse for a boy (men dont hit women, only boys who never grew up mentally)
I married a boy once. Have a floating rib (broken so badly it was an inch from where it was supposed to be) from abuse.
Never go back. For yourself and your kids protection. Be sure to stay safe. Take care *hugs*
We in the process of separating. We had to return to his home country where have a piece of property that we need to sell. I needed to go with him to make I got share of the proceeds. Unfortunately, the police here don’t get involved in domestic violence issues unless it is severe. I just wonder why when he hits me it makes me suicidal? I wish I had the desire to hurt him instead of myself.
that’s simply how you’re wired. when a husband hits her wife, her brain instinctively assumes she’s done something wrong, putting the blame on herself, even if it’s not.