I’ve been dating this guy and he seems to really like me although I have no idea why. I generally try to hide my depression and I haven’t told him about it so I’m not sure if he knows about it. Should I tell him about my depression? If so, advice on how to tell him?
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If you want the relationship to develop further, you will have to tell him. Try to work it into a conversation, and don’t unload it all at once. Maybe start a conversation about mental health in general and then as it develops, tell him that you have your own mental health issues. From there you can get more specific. And most importantly, try to be open when you’re talking about it. If he cares, he’ll listen and take into account everything you say. For a relationship to be solid, we can’t hide these things from our significant others.
It would depend on how long you’ve been together. I told my fiance before we were together but he was the only one I trusted and the only person I had to talk to. However I told an guy I was with about my depression and he kept the secret for a bit then we were hanging out with his friends one day and he said he was going to tell them. I didn’t tell him not to I begged him but he didn’t listen. I’d say its up to whether you tell him or not. As far as how to tell him. It all depends on him. Some people show compassion. Some show anger. I can’t advise you on what to say without knowing him. But my best advice would be honesty. When I told my fiance I told him everything. I told him I had depression and I told him why and how I was being treated. But you really have to be 100% sure this is the best idea. If it seems youre going to be together for say a year or more. And you’re in a serious relationship I’d say tell him in case you breakdown because I know I do a lot and if he knows why he could help you. This is just my advice I could be wrong because like I said I don’t know the situation so its up to you.
If the relationship is only beginning I would say no, if the two of you are becoming serious then yes. I can’t speak for all guys but if someone confided in me that they have depression if would endear towards them all the more! That’s my opinion.
For me, telling my partner about depressions basically wrecked us both. Unless you are absolutely sure that he is mentally stable and strong, I advise you to abstain from telling him your mental conditions.