Self esteem

Thanks for posting this. I came here today because I was looking at pictures from the opening of Oktoberfest in Germany, and there was some cleavage there, but then I remembered my conviction that I will never be able to go somewhere like that and hook up with a hot woman like that because of my shyness/social anxiety/autism/schizotypal personality disorder or whatever you want to call it. So yeah, I feel like I can totally relate to what you’re going through.

Unlike the poster above, I’m actually not sure this is the best place to get help. People aren’t exactly here because they have figured out how to live fulfilling lives, are they?

But if you still want my two cents, I’m clinging to the hope of something called metacognitive therapy, which basically teaches you to think less. The idea is that what all us “mentally ill” people are suffering from is basically overthinking. I’ll add some links below to get you started.

The other thing I would strongly recommend is befriending guys who are good with women, and spending a lot of time with them. There seems to be a lot of research showing that people basically become the five people they spend the most time with. So that might be an easier way to improve this aspect of your life. I believe my younger brother sort of used this approach. In school, he was initially in the more nerdy group, but eventually I guess he grew tired of them, so he started hanging out with some of the more player-like guys. And lo and behold, my brother is pretty confident and has had girlfriends I wouldn’t dare talk to if I met them at a party.

If you just want more knowledge on dating and women, visit the Mating Grounds website. That, however, may not be enough to actually get you out there taking action.

Good luck!

strangestofloops.blogspot.com/2011/11/beyond-cognition-interview-with-adrian.html

youtube.com/watch?v=JXgRGanYLSY

thematinggrounds.com/new-start-here/