Last you all heard my family had no house and was living out of vehicles. Well good news on that we found a trailer before the cold weather kicked in we are very grateful for everything money is kind of tight for this place but we really don’t care because we can finally be stress free well if I’m being honest I’m the one who got this place I paid $500 out of my savings so that my two young sisters and my dad and his girlfriend could have a place but yet I still get treated like the bad guy so I’m like be grateful I even did that since that money was to be for me when I moved out and all had over 1,000 and now I don’t have much in it because I wanted to support my family and to also make sure they had shelter over their heads because that’s the kind of person I am. You also knew I was dating a guy well that guy left me November 26 and it was almost 2 years for him and I he said I never made him happy throughout the whole relationship only sometimes I was hurt really bad and I wanted to start self harm again but guess what I was stronger than what everyone thought I was going to be its been almost a month since he left me I do miss him yes but that’s never going to change will I let someone into my heart again and be able to trust that they are happy with me who knows all I know is that I need to be strong and move on like he I’m better than that I may not show it but I am the first few days he left was rough I started drinking constantly then going into work feeling sad and then I realized why waste my tie when he probably only wanted me for sex or what not who knows all well I’m stronger now. Work is going okay I want to get a second to help out my case more but other than that its going okay. I’m actually going to let you guys in on a little secret I’m pregnant found out two weeks that I’m already 7 weeks I was like oh shit I’m Prego and I have no father figure for my child no I haven’t told the father yet and don’t know if I should after everything he put me through so I’m asking you what should I do?
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You sound like a really good person. I really dont know what advise to give you on this. I am a 19 year old dude that has never even been in a relationship after all… All I gotta say is dont get back together with him only because of the kid. I dont think that would end up well. My mom did just that when she was pregnant with me. She wanted to abort me but she got back together with my abusive father because of me. And it didnt work out, obviously. They split up soon after I was born anyway coz no one could really stand my father. Thats all I can say about this. As I said Im not really qualified or experienced in this area. I still think that you can manage to raise the kid on your own, find some another guy or whatever you decide to do. Just dont desperately get together with him only coz you would think it would be better for the kid. That is the only advise I can give you but as I said. Dont take it too seriously.. I really dont know what Im talking about here.
It really would be better for the kid…
I mean would not… Why cant you edit your comments on this site…
abort probably, if he is not a good guy… I mean you really don’t sound like you need a baby at this stage in your life without him even being married to you or even a steady boyfriend….. but I’m not trying to offend you, that’s your decision. I know plenty woman who chose the abortion path. Unless you think babies’ are cute, but its pretty much more complicated then that, because once it grows it will a have a whole lifetime and might be miserable and unhappy.. who knows.
Gosh I seriously would have no idea what I’d do in that situation… I’d probably… no I really have no idea. If you think that he only wanted you for s e x then you are better off without him…
Babies cost a lot of money. You need diapers, food, clothing, etc. They say to raise a child from zero to 18 yrs old costs around $200,000 or over $1000/month.
So if you don’t think you have that kind of money then it’s best to have an abortion asap or you might be forced to give it up for adoption. Imagine being raised by strangers, no friends/family, etc. They’re often abused physically and sexually and nothing is ever done about it.
It seems that you are struggling in life and it’s best to raise them in a stable house. Also, you need two people because it’s too much work (and expense as mentioned) for one person to do it alone and someone always has to look after your kid if you go to your job.
A relative asked me and others the same thing, we advised her to abort, she didn’t listen and she struggled a great deal. Life was very hard for her and had she not received help from family members, she would’ve ended up homeless with her child. I’m just saying it’s a serious life-changing decision and a far bigger responsibility than most people realize.
Raising a child when you are low on money and have an unstable partner is hellish on you and hell on the child.
$1000 a month? Yes, at least. Don’t have it coming in already? You will find a miserable way to make it, or pursue it’s equivalent often with a mixture of monumental effort and also the generosity of others, always anxious about: diapers, food, safe shelter, adequate healthcare, safe and reliable transportation. It is misery for the parent and worse than that for the child.
It certainly isn’t an ideal start, but things can work out. You can certainly can raise the child, but it sounds like it will be very tough for a while. It well may turn out to be a blessing to you despite the somewhat tragic beginnings. Adoption is also something to consider. Sometimes the best one.
It’s your call if you tell him. I couldn’t begin to say without knowing more about he and you. He’ll eventually find out if you do want child support.
so I have some bad news for you all who knew I was pregnant I lost the baby due to getting jumped on my way home a few nights ago was at work and heading home I didn’t see a face he was wearing a mask so im pretty devastated about this all im busied up a bit but ill be okay beside losing my baby