hey, i wanted to ask this for a while and i searched lots and i never found a proper answer, so basically the girl i love has anorexia , its quite serious and no matter how much she sometimes reaches with recovery whenever she sees her weight up she’d freak out and goes back to giving up and wanting to die. i realllly want to help her, she gets treatment and all but they are pushing her so much and i know its too much and i want to tell her that she needs to recover without me pushing her more. how can i ? i love her so much to accept what she’s doing i cant just sit and look. i understand how she feels but its not right,, im really scared for her
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I have a lot of experience in this department.
First thing is ignore what all the “professionals” say because they’re clueless. If they knew what they were doing then obviously they would’ve come up with a cure for anorexia by now.
Second thing. Do NOT tell her to eat. Never EVER. If you push her to eat, then you’re just one of “them” and she’ll tune you out. But it sounds like you figured this out already. Good job.
Here’s what you do. Just keep telling her she looks great. No matter what, just keep telling her. Anorexia isn’t about weight or size, it’s about image perception. So keep reinforcing positive thoughts and she’ll stop worrying about image so much. And you better be pretty convincing, because if she senses that you’re just saying it, then she’ll tune you out just like if you’re pushing. But if you keep flooding her with positive comments about her looks and I guarantee it’ll help bring her back.
thank you very much for this helpful reply, yes ofc i never tell her to eat it’s not right in anyway. but i will try to tell her much more positive stuff about her appearance and everything. i really love her and i hope for the best honestly.