My child is relentlessly bullied by 1 black kid at his school. I say his race because it is why he is immune to any type of discipline, like suspension and so on. That one kid does employ of few other kids as his henchmen randomly, but he is the “man”.
Nothing can be done do to the Racial Equity Policies set up to insure BAD kids remain and good kids get punished. Assault, harassment on all levels including sexual, theft, constant intimidations, barging into classes, in the middle of class to deliver hate notes to my child, and so on. Displaying PORNOGRAPHIC images and videos in class on his personal Cellphone to other 6th graders. Reported, next day, kid had his phone like nothing was up. But Its been all year, the incidents have been reported, reported, and reported, to the school, to the district, and this kid hasn’t missed a beat, just keeps upping the rhythm.
The school walls are just DRIPPING with all types of anti bullying propaganda like “BE A BUDDY NOT A BULLY” that isn’t doing jack, or shit but enraging me further when I come in because of a HORRIBLY FAILING RACIST POLICY that only makes sure that prison populations, and VICTIM populations will continue to go up. If you fear no consequence or judgment, have no respect for any type of authority, that is the end game anyway for this particular demographic.
The propaganda is frustrating to see EVERYTIME I go in to talk to an assistant vice principal, that doesn’t care, and a non existent principal, who seems she always has something else going on that she can’t attend the meetings. There have been 4 this semester alone.
Nothing will be done until white kids in that school, like mine, start misbehaving more. Which they very well may or not, I would, if I was always under attack and NO ONE in a place of authority did anything about it… sooner or later they are going to lash out. And then they will be called racists. Like the teachers are called RACIST when they try to discipline them.
We are all just so fucking racist. oh yes, so racist. Thats why I didn’t hesitate to help out my neighbor who lost her daycare and desperately needed emergency cheap daycare. That was 4 years ago, she has the cheapest daycare in this city. I walk out and make sure he gets on the bus, and meet him every day at his bus for the past 4 years too, so fuck off with your racism. Oh, he is black by the way. for some reason I didn’t hate him. I’m selectively Racist apparently.
Piled on top of injustice after injustice that is forced on my innocent child, and the OTHER innocent children. 1 kid acts up in class, 29 kids that did NOTHING get punished. The bad one gets to sit in a special chair for a minute and runs out at the bell. Forcing the 29 to take the punishment of being held in class so they are ALL late, and ALL have to run like hell to their next class, all because they did nothing!!!!! But follow the rules. The bad kid, he’ll be found wandering the hallway like a fucking rock star. The power he must feel. what a rush.
My kid is a straight A student and his teachers love him. but he’s white, so he’s a racist, and he has white privilege to blame for all that positivity, and hard work he and his parents put in to ensure those grades stay As. We can’t win because we are racists. I have had nothing to do with anything against any other race. I don’t promote hate, but the more tolerance and love I show, it comes back to me in the form of illogical and confused selfishly driven blind hate. I’m stuck in a rage loop, everything is corrosive. Reached out to parents, hand slapped back. Reached out to the school..”nothing we can do”.
My existence is being pushed into hate, frustration, rage, I get paralyzed by it because I cant follow through with what they are starting, I refuse to. Like the way the schools think punishing 29 good kids because 1 kid decided to act up, the 29 can’t punish the kid that is acting up, the school, under privacy policies here, won’t tell the parents. So nothing will change, other than changing those 29 good kids into the 1 shit kid. This policy applies everywhere, only economic status’s are the dividers in schools where there is little to no racial diversity.
Why protect those that DO NOT DESERVE PROTECTION!?? Why protect those that INTENTIONALLY HURT others? and ENJOY HURTING OTHERS???? Like really enjoy it, I’ve seen these same kids harassing a child to the point of crying. The children just laughed at this kid. I know it isn’t a race thing, its just they are apparently trained to enjoy making others miserable, or are being abused at home and acting out on others. But they really enjoy it whatever the cause. Once they get the desired reaction of pain. They danced and sang all around em. its insanity.
Then you have the mindless parents saying “oh kids just being kids” no, unchecked, unparented, unguided kids, enjoying the torture their peers and other people, isn’t just “being kids”. That is the breeding ground for everything that is wrong with our society today.. locally.
Simple parenting, guidance and instructions on HOW to live in a civil society would help. But No parent wants to talk about it. They are either SCARED, like me, or just don’t give a shit, OR think everything is FINE. As lone as we have these policies things will continue to get worse. Theres my rant, what a waste of time.
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This is a website to talk and offer support for people with suicidal thoughts, not a place to go on a random racist rant. And no I’m not black.
It’s a site to voice your thoughts without judgement. The only rule as far as that goes is no hate. They are not showing hate to anyone here. And if you go back to the very first post in 2004 by admin this site is actually for those who have survived suicide or who’s friends or family have died by suicide. I see no problem with their post. They are just trying to get their feeling off their chest.
same, can’t see any problem here :/
poster is facing a real, troublesome issue that just so happens to be, by fate, not intention, race-related…
& we can’t ever know how hard things are that such an issue & even simpler problems could easily push someone off the edge
:/
I would try to put the racial aspect to one side, however frustrating you find it. The question right now is what can you do to help your son bring the bullying to an end. If the school is unwilling or unable to put a stop to it, then you either need to find a better school, or look for ways to help your son withstand such treatment. This could include getting him self-defense training, assertiveness training, or any number of other strategies to push back. There is nothing worse than being a passive victim of such treatment – it teaches learned helplessness, and leaves lifelong scars.
In my experience, bullies always target those least willing or least able to stand up for themselves. If someone hits back, and keeps doing so, verbally or physically, even if they come off worse in a confrontation, then the bully is likely to move on to an easier target.
Your son shouldn’t have to deal with that kind of abuse, but the world sucks. If you cant get the school to take action, or change schools, then the best thing you can do for your son is give him the confidence to stand up for himself, and let him know that you will back him all the way in doing so, even if it gets him in trouble. The only exception to that might be if the bully carries weapons/has gang links, but you didn’t mention anything like that.
You’re right. He should stand up for himself. I was bullied in middle school and it didn’t bother me so I ignored it. Then I found out she was bullying someone else and I quickly put a stop to it. The bully never bothered me again. (Also when I went into school the next day the other girl getting bullied ran up to me and hugged me saying no one ever did that for her before. I actually completely forgot what I had done lol)
our hero !
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Pick on me all want. Your just someone trying to make yourself feel better. But start bother other people and were going to have a problem. In high school I had someone bothering me and again I didn’t do anything. However my friend was there and wishes he did. I told him it is best that he didn’t because I would have gotten kicked out of school. I don’t tolerate bullying.
said like a True Knight 😉
some awesome code of conduct you got there!
🙂
Umm…..I guess? Heehee. I do stuff like that all the time 5ft 2ish female and I though nothing about standing in between 2 guys who were gonna fight yelling at them to stop then removing one of them for the situation the other saying “let him hit me” I don’t get how everyone could just stand by watching. Even encouraging.
I just don’t understand why people don’t stand up more often. If they did there would be a lot less problems in the world because the ones causing it would realize they can’t get away with it. I refuse to stand by and watch someone die because of a few wrong words or actions
similarly 🙁
most of my “outdoors” time
i find myself in battle with the “bystander effect”
it’s become so normal
& it’s exactly the reason why problems like in this post happen
because no one says or does anything
still
again
you’re one brave girl
<3
xo
Thank you I guess
i thought about it a lot
i’ve come to conclude
that it’s mostly “fear” i think
not really “apathy”
🙁
those who encourage
or laugh
or are completely completely unaffected
yes “apathy” certainly
but for most others
who would be discomforted or grimacing
but stand or pass by silently
it’s fear
of consequences
of resulting problems
of possible psychological or physical pain or injury
what do you think?
i mean
seeing it that way
it really takes a lot of courage to get involved
because you’re looking at what you’re risking & willingly throwing it all in the sea
might end up peacefully or safely
might not
I’d have to agree but we can’t have a world run by fear and hate either. Something has to change. And even if I’m the only one. I’ll fight until I die for that change.
exactly
& again said like a True Knight
when i realized this i stopped feeling angry at others & instead focused on acting
the hope is that when others see you overcome your fears, take the risk, & act
you’ll give them the spark to overcome their own fears, take the risk, & act too
& from that point then it’s strength in numbers
😉
You’re Most Most Welcome Brave Knight
🙂
<3
My best advice to anyone…..befriend those that are hurting. Give then a reason to happy. A shoulder to cry on. A reason to live. A reason to fight back and hope that they do the same for someone else. There was someone on here and the friended me on fb. After a while they messaged me saying they were doing so much better. I remember feeling good that I helped someone. And until I die I’ll keep doing doing that I know world peace is a long shot but just one happy person is a damn good start. 🙂
sure is angel
sure is
🙂
<3
@thehusk
so so perfectly said
you covered every single point i had in mind
@reallywhocares
big big hug
deep deep breath
calm down
& let’s think logically about this
please consider each & every point mentioned above
most most importantly the last one
we don’t want our champ to be hurt or in serious life threatening danger in the process
for self-defense & assertiveness
i’m not a professional in the field in any way
but i wrote something about this
for a kind girl here
some long time ago
purely based on my own modest experiences & understanding of things
it’s like a self-made mini-handbook
& it mostly addresses the psychological part of being attacked & why it hurts & how to counter it
if you wish
i’d love to share it with you
so you could hopefully share it [or parts of it] with our warrior
i could post it here or by email
whichever you prefer
my email is
farahlajeennouraldeen.1
@gmail
you’re most most welcome to contact any time
in any & all cases
please do take care
of him
& of “You”
he needs “You” above all else
& it’s not just through this
we don’t have to talk about it if you wish not to
but please do not give in
to whatever the
“some reason i’m here”
is…
okay
you’re not alone
& reallysomepeopledocare
truly wish you & our brave warrior all the best
<3
xo
Great advice Husk, I was about to say something similar. If the school can’t handle it then he needs to go to the police and/or take the child to a different school. Self-defense training is a good idea as well. But it can get difficult if that kid is in a gang.
He might consider stepping in directly and deal with the bully himself. When I was a child an older kid tried to bully me and I told my dad about it who then told the bully “if you come near my son I’m going to do something to you.” I won’t elaborate but you get the idea.
That rotten lowlife then kept his distance from me. The only way to deal with bullies is to remind them that they aren’t invincible and their actions lead to very bad consequences for them.