I’ve reread over my last post a few times and I see how it can come across as judgmental and condescending and as an attack on others. Yeah, its not really helpful and I executed it very poorly. My shitty judgment told me that making such a post would be helpful.
If someone else had written that, I wouldn’t have liked to have read that.
I wonder how I can get my point across without sounding so condescending?
All I really wanted to say is that… to change your life, you need to go and do something.
(Which again defeats the purpose of this post because people come here for help and advice to make their life better). Still though, in the end, you have to take action yourself. Nobody is going to do that for you, they can only suggest and guide and give advice.
I think, the sooner you act on stuff, the better. Doing something just means anything to try to make your life better. Seeking advice goes there, as long as you end up following through on it. (you have to figure out whether you think it’s good advice or not..)
If you don’t see the point of living, I don’t know what to tell you… what I try to follow is, you need a purpose and a reason to live. Maybe a purpose that makes you feel really fulfilled. (I’m still looking…)
Regarding this f**ked up world… please try not to give up on yourself. I’m not going to throw out the ‘it gets better’ stuff. I do believe most people do have the power to change their situation in the end. Even by doing really small steps, you can do that.
Then again, if I’ve judged you again, I’m sorry, and no I don’t really understand you, just like you don’t understand me… 😛
I’ll put a small example here: if you want to be more social, then you need to try and talk to more people, whether its online or in real life. If those people are pricks, well sadly many are that way. There’s got to be someone out there who isn’t a prick, right?
I can’t really be bothered to talk to most people online anymore. Sorry but that’s how it is. So yeah you are right there I shouldn’t had claimed that nobody cared. Anyway, in the chance you ever did like me, all I can tell you, is that there are much kinder people out there than me… talk to them. I’m a really messed up individual and I’m not saying that ‘just because’…it’s because I know I am, so I’m going to let you know. Even if my life gets very shitty in the future, well, I’ll have to deal with that in my own way. Won’t interest me to come here and talk about it, because lets face it, some of that might have been my own doing. I chose that 😛
It took me YEARS to change my situation, so, sadly no it is not just as simple as ‘go and do something’. I know that too well :/
I guess this is why I suggest doing something now instead of later… or at least, soon. If you leave it too long, you’ll end up building a comfort zone which is going to be extremely difficult to get out of. Even if you want to change, even if you want to leave it, you feel that you just ‘can’t’. You will get very used to being that way. That was only my experience, not saying it is anyone else’s.
Yes, I cannot stop at last posts, lol… gahhh!
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That’s was a better way of putting. You did have good advice in your other post however your word choice was a bit harsh lol
I can empathize if someone hears they are condescending. For years I heard I was condescending. It was downright painful to hear that. That was one of the reasons I had used to justify dying. As near as I can tell it came from at least two errors of thinking I was doing.
Yeah. After all the whining about your ex and your situation you’ve done on here. You have nerve!
…to what? stop whining? 😛
This is better. It doesn’t seem to come from the perspective of someone looking down on others like the other one did (only talking about others and what you perceived them doing wrong and not yourself or anything you’ve done helped give that impression), instead coming from a place of your own experience. The tone of your last seemed colder too, and not inline with how you honestly usually sound.
I also still think there’s a difference between venting and whining, and while a certain mindset may see a vent as a whinge regardless, a release of emotion is still better than allowing a build up by keeping it in. People can take action and still be upset by things.