Stubbornness? I’m sorry about that, Iris. I hope you’re able to rekindle with your friend in some way. Eh, I wish I had something more useful to say, but alas, I am but a wee planet.
Thanks for the late birthday wishes xD
I got through the birthday with no physical damage at least. Which is good
I’m not sure what will happen with friend.
possibly, although I’ve set kind of a deadline for if they don’t stop ignoring me by then I’ll never be friendly with them again.
That might be a bit vindictive yes…. But also they have a few days left.
I’m going to connect with a friend I haven’t seen in a long time. It will be nice to get together and do some things but we prefer to do them in different ways. Those different ways can get to you and you just want to go back to where you can do things the way you want without that interference. But then you’re alone again. Too bad there’s not a perfect middle ground when it comes to socializing.
I’m sorry 🙁
Fights are horrible, yet I also love them and sometimes attempt to start them. They are so much more tempting to start with people that I care about too.
HELLO I’M BACK!
shatterediris: Oh god! not you Rocketman!
Rocketman: Yes it’s me! Just try and push me away! I’ll give you 3 black eyes!
HA HA! Hey stop all this non since and just be good would you!
I have that problem too in someways. Today’s world especially “if you don’t agree with me i don’t want to talk to you!” The latest communication tactic, I myself look at all angles and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. but people these days don’t care about yours, it’s a way of life at the moment. all i can do is say if you don’t want to talk to me fine then your not worth talking too! But! if you want to talk constructively i’m all ears.
Yeah I realized that when I wrote it but i like to hear myself talk! 🙂
Nothing wrong with strong opinions, you should believe in what your talking about. Most problems these days are because both sides legitimatize what their talking about but one side closes it’s ears.
OK I’ll read this thing over again, take no offence to this stuff i’m just fishing all avenues.
You push them away because…….
1. You don’t want to hurt them.
2. you don’t want to get hurt.
3. you don’t have enough in conman.
4. you are exactly alike.
5. I FUCKING GIVE UP WHAT IS IT TELL ME! 🙂
Anyways OK I’ll tell you a true story!
shatterediris: Oh god! not one of your ridiculous child like stories! HELP!!
I had a best friend for 20 years did everything together though alike we were bothers! he was rich! family had a ton of money, i was poor really although my family was rich i took none of it.
Well He and i separated we went on our own ways, he got married me too! anyways after a bunch of divorces and several year’s go by i wanted to talk to my old buddy i search for years like a detective i finally found him! on line!
He was alone in a trailer with a truck old stuff living on the streets, WTF! And he turned to Jesus! and every conversation with me was about, “i’m a devil and i’m going to hell!” “The world going to blow up everyone is going to die!” OMG! He lost his mind for reals! out of his mind! thought i could pull him out of it, NO WAY! This has been going on for 7 years! I still talk to him just because i’m an old friend and he’s alone but it’s not like the old days! i get lectured i’m a devil! he can’t wait to see the world blow up! he wants to see the suffering! And because his has lost his mind “belongs under observation” IMO, I forgive him and continue to talk to him i’m his only friend. What that has to do with your situation i don’t know? 🙂
I’m not sure why I drive people away, I know sometimes I just really want an altercation with people that I care about, it’s exciting…. Although this was different I was just annoyed with the person over something, and did not really express that very well…. I had been annoyed with them for weeks, maybe even two or three months about the thing, but I was trying to be nice…. I decided to stop that, now the friendship is wounded, and that wound will become a hideous scar.
I have friends that I actually strongly disagree with the beliefs of. (oh wow imagine that, being an atheist and all xD) Including some actually very insane ones, but they are still fun…. I tend to get really upset only about what people do and how they feel about other people, those are things that matter to me quite a bit.
Also a friend of 20 years? O.o that’s forever…. I can’t imagine having a friendship last that long, my oldest friendship is just about going to hit 10 years now…. which is a lot longer than it feels like it should be, wow, that’s actually almost half of my life now…. mind you not exactly a close friendship but a person that keeps coming back to see me every so often so I guess that counts. They are also actually crazy though…. Not at all in the same way though.
shatterediris, Perhaps you are the Devils Advocate? I am for sure! Things need to be looked at from all sides, a yes man doesn’t think just agree’s.
well i think you should apologize like this:
if i have offended you i’m sorry, explain that you just feel strongly about your opinion, but our friendship is much more important to me than a difference in options so i’m sorry lets be friends.
Your not really apologizing for what you said but your sorry the friendship was effected, someone has to cave in order to bring it back together. I’ve done it a million times one of you has to be a bigger person. how’s that! i even made you out the hero in this deplorable situation! 🙂 I’m Sneaky 🙂
I think I sort of solved it…. We at least spent like an hour talking almost now…. Maybe it’ll be fine?
Maybe I was just too worried about it?
Apparently though they weren’t going to talk to me first, and I just kind of didn’t approach them in the best way, but it seems to have worked. There were no apologies lobbed either way.
Also I love to play Devil’s Advocate, it is quite fun…. Also actually moderately useful at times. I really don’t have enough friends where I can afford to get rid of them though.
But, it is a good thing that now after almost a week of not talking it seems to have been possibly slightly fixed…. Still it might be more like putting a band-aid on a deep cut, but it’ll hold for a little bit at least.
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Fear?
Meh, or stubbornness
Or maybe I just can’t get along with people for long periods of time?
Stubbornness? I’m sorry about that, Iris. I hope you’re able to rekindle with your friend in some way. Eh, I wish I had something more useful to say, but alas, I am but a wee planet.
Also, happy late birthday.
Thanks for the late birthday wishes xD
I got through the birthday with no physical damage at least. Which is good
I’m not sure what will happen with friend.
That’s good. I think if it’s a worthwhile friendship, then you two will manage to find a way to make up. Best wishes!
possibly, although I’ve set kind of a deadline for if they don’t stop ignoring me by then I’ll never be friendly with them again.
That might be a bit vindictive yes…. But also they have a few days left.
I’m going to connect with a friend I haven’t seen in a long time. It will be nice to get together and do some things but we prefer to do them in different ways. Those different ways can get to you and you just want to go back to where you can do things the way you want without that interference. But then you’re alone again. Too bad there’s not a perfect middle ground when it comes to socializing.
I had a fight with the person. -_-
Sameeeeeeeeeeeee
I’m sorry 🙁
Fights are horrible, yet I also love them and sometimes attempt to start them. They are so much more tempting to start with people that I care about too.
It wasn’t fights that pushed us apart, this one’s on me.
HELLO I’M BACK!
shatterediris: Oh god! not you Rocketman!
Rocketman: Yes it’s me! Just try and push me away! I’ll give you 3 black eyes!
HA HA! Hey stop all this non since and just be good would you!
I have that problem too in someways. Today’s world especially “if you don’t agree with me i don’t want to talk to you!” The latest communication tactic, I myself look at all angles and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. but people these days don’t care about yours, it’s a way of life at the moment. all i can do is say if you don’t want to talk to me fine then your not worth talking too! But! if you want to talk constructively i’m all ears.
Keep out of trouble! 🙂
Rocketman!!!! ^_^
It has been quite a while.
People are hard :/ And I do hold quite strong opinions on some subjects, however this wasn’t really over something like that. -_-
Yeah I realized that when I wrote it but i like to hear myself talk! 🙂
Nothing wrong with strong opinions, you should believe in what your talking about. Most problems these days are because both sides legitimatize what their talking about but one side closes it’s ears.
OK I’ll read this thing over again, take no offence to this stuff i’m just fishing all avenues.
You push them away because…….
1. You don’t want to hurt them.
2. you don’t want to get hurt.
3. you don’t have enough in conman.
4. you are exactly alike.
5. I FUCKING GIVE UP WHAT IS IT TELL ME! 🙂
Anyways OK I’ll tell you a true story!
shatterediris: Oh god! not one of your ridiculous child like stories! HELP!!
I had a best friend for 20 years did everything together though alike we were bothers! he was rich! family had a ton of money, i was poor really although my family was rich i took none of it.
Well He and i separated we went on our own ways, he got married me too! anyways after a bunch of divorces and several year’s go by i wanted to talk to my old buddy i search for years like a detective i finally found him! on line!
He was alone in a trailer with a truck old stuff living on the streets, WTF! And he turned to Jesus! and every conversation with me was about, “i’m a devil and i’m going to hell!” “The world going to blow up everyone is going to die!” OMG! He lost his mind for reals! out of his mind! thought i could pull him out of it, NO WAY! This has been going on for 7 years! I still talk to him just because i’m an old friend and he’s alone but it’s not like the old days! i get lectured i’m a devil! he can’t wait to see the world blow up! he wants to see the suffering! And because his has lost his mind “belongs under observation” IMO, I forgive him and continue to talk to him i’m his only friend. What that has to do with your situation i don’t know? 🙂
I’m not sure why I drive people away, I know sometimes I just really want an altercation with people that I care about, it’s exciting…. Although this was different I was just annoyed with the person over something, and did not really express that very well…. I had been annoyed with them for weeks, maybe even two or three months about the thing, but I was trying to be nice…. I decided to stop that, now the friendship is wounded, and that wound will become a hideous scar.
I have friends that I actually strongly disagree with the beliefs of. (oh wow imagine that, being an atheist and all xD) Including some actually very insane ones, but they are still fun…. I tend to get really upset only about what people do and how they feel about other people, those are things that matter to me quite a bit.
Also a friend of 20 years? O.o that’s forever…. I can’t imagine having a friendship last that long, my oldest friendship is just about going to hit 10 years now…. which is a lot longer than it feels like it should be, wow, that’s actually almost half of my life now…. mind you not exactly a close friendship but a person that keeps coming back to see me every so often so I guess that counts. They are also actually crazy though…. Not at all in the same way though.
shatterediris, Perhaps you are the Devils Advocate? I am for sure! Things need to be looked at from all sides, a yes man doesn’t think just agree’s.
well i think you should apologize like this:
if i have offended you i’m sorry, explain that you just feel strongly about your opinion, but our friendship is much more important to me than a difference in options so i’m sorry lets be friends.
Your not really apologizing for what you said but your sorry the friendship was effected, someone has to cave in order to bring it back together. I’ve done it a million times one of you has to be a bigger person. how’s that! i even made you out the hero in this deplorable situation! 🙂 I’m Sneaky 🙂
I think I sort of solved it…. We at least spent like an hour talking almost now…. Maybe it’ll be fine?
Maybe I was just too worried about it?
Apparently though they weren’t going to talk to me first, and I just kind of didn’t approach them in the best way, but it seems to have worked. There were no apologies lobbed either way.
Also I love to play Devil’s Advocate, it is quite fun…. Also actually moderately useful at times. I really don’t have enough friends where I can afford to get rid of them though.
But, it is a good thing that now after almost a week of not talking it seems to have been possibly slightly fixed…. Still it might be more like putting a band-aid on a deep cut, but it’ll hold for a little bit at least.
great! i do the same thing “just too worried about it” when ever I am I ALWAYS MAKE THE RIGHT MOVE!
Okay after sleeping the person is still speaking to me, so that’s a good sign…. Maybe the thing blew over xD
Thank god! I was tried of getting it wrong! 🙂