When it comes to how you look, how you are perceived, there is no winning.
This world is full of things saying “no body shaming” and full of people on the internet who will attack anyone who shows or says anything discriminating against bigger people. They sure talk a good game, with all this self love stuff. I might almost believe anyone cared, if they actually meant anything at all that they said. I don’t think anyone should be hated on or joked about based on what they look like. And you could probably find other people who say the same thing. Yet when I say it, I mean anyone at all, and when they say it, they mean curvy people. It is completely socially acceptable to dis anyone skinny or underweight. I don’t understand how that makes any sense at all, really.
I feel hurt when I’m picked on, same as anyone else. I know my grandfather would NEVER say anything if I were overweight, but he mentioned my weight at least four times just today. Because I’m skinny, he feels justified in telling me I’m “hardly even there” and to “go eat a sandwich.” If he were actually worried, he would take me aside and have a serious conversation, not just make jokes at my expense. It’s not only him, but so many others who treat me this same way. And there’s no one jumping to defend me in the name of “self love,” or “no body shaming.” And I know, so many people have problems with weight, and other people who are jerks to them. I know I’m not special in this. I just wonder why, even in those supposed unbiased movements, there are quotes like “real girls have curves.” I don’t have curves, I don’t weigh a healthy amount, I am skinny. But believe it or not, hurtful comments can crush me, too. I don’t want to be made fun of, either. I hate this world. I hate all the obsession with how you look. I hate living here. Please take me away….
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We all look like monkeys wearing clothes. Tell him he’s old and looks like a raisin, but you love him anyhow. I probably look like a whisp of grass in work clothes. People tell me all the time. A coworker did it last week, and I reminded him that he looks like Chris Farley after falling into a pile of ugly sticks. If someone says something like that, turnaround is fair game.
People do tend to be rather superficial (me as much as anyone.) We also seem to love pointing out the flaws in others. There’s no such thing as an ‘unbiased movement’. Pretty much everyone is advocating for one set of interests and looking for someone else to project their grievances onto.
Your health is important (for you), but ultimately it’s nobody else’s business (unless you’re passing out from malnutrition.) Those who make fun of others should expect the same back, but if you don’t want to play that game then try to keep in mind that they’re probably just looking for an outlet for their own insecurities. If it becomes too unpleasant to laugh off then I’d tell whoever it is to go fuck themselves.
I’ve always been fat as f*ck but I don’t care because at least I’m me and not someone else. I just lost 70 pounds last year I walked 7-10 miles a day and that was good, but then something weird happened and I was raped after that I couldn’t go outside and walk anymore. I also can’t cook as much as I used to (healthy) or I can’t read as much as I used to (every day) Now I just eat fast food and chain smoke because I can’t move.
Wow! First off i’m a skinny little guy and look like I’ve been through the war HA HA! a SEX Symbol i am not, drugs rock n roll and a hard life will do that to you, But! let me just say it doesn’t matter what you look like, it doesn’t matter! people are drawn to your inner beauty how you think how you act, people like someone with inter beauty.
example: you don’t have to look like a playboy bunny but you need to have the attitude!
people are drawn to self confidence there are so many beautiful that don’t have that they feel defeated as well and aren’t interesting after a couple of minutes, so………….. work on that! More than complaining that your bot perfect, or losing a few pounds, attitude! wins every time!
not! ha ha!