How do you cope with being lonely?
I find myself making plans and then cancel them because of social anxiety and depression.
Tonight is Halloween and I was supposed to go out with people but I canceled on them and now I feel like a fucking loser. It’s been happening a lot lately and each time I feel more and more lonely.
and the feeling of being lonely sucks. I am a sucker for (love) company.
So, how do you deal with being alone?
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You shouldnt have cancelled your plans m8. Not being lonely is most important. You’re lucky people wanted you to go out with them. I am stuck here with my loneliness. I have no anxiety, but absolutely no friends. Go out with your friends before you lose them. Trust me.
So if you’re like me and find yourself lonely all the time, you should do stuff you love in which you can make progress and feel a sense of achievement (for example, I like to create art and play guitar) and take good care of yourself (avoid junk food and the like). Try to avoid video games except when you don’t have a lot energy. Same goes for netflix and youtube. Try to keep your mind concentrated on improving your skills. Try not to have a routine and do new stuff everyday. I also advice to not keep your emotions within yourself, and maybe draw or write whats bothering you, and share it somewhere, so you can express your feelings.
This advice isnt the best. I am still depressed but at least I am proud of what I am.
Love,
Don’t ditch your friends. They’ll keep you sane. When people abandon you and you’re forced to be alone, then come back and we’ll give you advice.
Unless you have a good reason for isolating yourself, best not to do it. Isolation and loneliness leads to all the dark things inside coming up.
Forcing myself to find things to do is how I deal with “alone.” I’m by no means a workaholic, but work is a good distraction. When I’m not working, it’s the simple things that get me through my self imposed isolation – chores around the house, shopping, going for walks, bike rides, reading a book, occasionally watching tv. There are only a few tv shows I indulge myself in, as tv and media on the whole are just a big freaking joke.
In short, I find things to do. I just stay busy, otherwise my mind runs rampant with me and that’s just not good.
As for keeping your friends around, I can’t say that works for me. I dislike social contact to the point that any friendship I manage to strike up I will very quickly destroy. It never fails. I have never been able to connect with humans and never will be able to, not at an intimate level, and that’s just fine with me. Starting with me, humans are just an annoying nuisance that require too much maintenance.
I always do something that will distract me I play a lot of video games when the darkness sets into my skin and feel numb enough to try cut myself again these scars wont heal if I let myself feel lonely Im afraid I’ll end it all