Whenever I’m thinking, which I always am, I get so extremely sad. Or maybe it’s the other way around, I’m always sad and therefore my thoughts are too.
But the thing is, I do try to lift myself up and think “happy thoughts”. But they’re just not there.
When I think about something that makes me sad, I tell myself “ok think about something else”. But everything I can think of, is sad. There’s nothing I can think of that’s a little bit positive, at all.
So how the hell should I be happy, when there’s nothing to be happy about ?
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Although better than sadness, I’m not sure having happy thoughts is worth it either. I feel it would be better to gain the ability to control thought. I’d like to reach that mental state before I die but it’s sure no cakewalk.
Sorry I’ve nothing to offer about being happy but maybe if you can force your thoughts to extremely impersonal things like microbiome or deep space, at least for the moment it might help to overcome sadness. *might :/
Adrian Wells is a psychologist who has developed something called Metacognitive Therapy.
He claims that the problem is not the content of your thoughts – the problem is that you dwell on them repetitively for extended periods of time – you are stuck in a rut, basically.
Metacognitive Therapy aims to teach people that thoughts are only thoughts – and not to be taken too seriously.
One method is telling people to limit their worrying to e.g. half an hour per day at a specific time.
Another is an exercise called the Attention Training Technique, which requires you to focus on various individual sounds while others are playing simultaneously.
Finally, he talks of something called Detached Mindfulness, which is a bit different from the kind of mindfulness you have probably heard of. The idea here is to learn to separate yourself from your thoughts, so that you can examine them and then let them go.
I think that having happy thoughs begin with aceppting you are sad, not running from it.
Tbh, you dont really have to run from these sad thoughts either. Accept them, then go and find something that is not sad, it doesnt need to be happy, just, not sad. its a good beggining