General BPD by Plainwhite 7/25/2021 written by Plainwhite 7/25/2021 I wonder how many people here struggle with BPD, either as a sufferer or a loved one of someone who has it. People who do–what do you find helps, if anything, during difficult moments? 6 comments 0 Email Related posts update 9/20/2021 He thinks, he says 9/20/2021 i’m done 9/20/2021 Bullshit 9/20/2021 What if I’m not the problem? 9/19/2021 Back in the Ditch 9/19/2021 I survived, but… 9/19/2021 Random question of the day 9/19/2021 Bullied by Boss 9/18/2021 Do i deserve less respect? 9/18/2021 6 comments Robert77 7/25/2021 - 8:22 pm Both my ex wife and son have BPD and I ended up with CPTSD and am still recovering from it. Shes on all kinds of different meds and they always stop working at some point then they try others. I coped for about 15 years of our 25 year marriage by living in separate places lol. Now I have to take valium or I have that overwhelming desire to want to end my life. Im in a new relationship and things are not going so well because I have serious abandonment issues now myself. Log in to Reply Abnormal.Thoughts 7/25/2021 - 9:32 pm I too have BPD. (Writing it that way sounds like I’m declaring my love for Jesus or something for some reason lol) Coping? Mostly I just try to erase all emotions in my interactions that aren’t “good” emotions. I function pretty well externally but it’s hard because it just builds up inside and I feel alone in everything. Alternately, there’s always the conventional coping skills, but we’ve all heard this before Log in to Reply heartlessviking 7/26/2021 - 1:23 am Interesting you picked that particular diagnosis. my best friend is verified BPD, as well as one of my cousins. This past week my therapist suggested that I might have some BPD symptoms. I’m not sure if I agree. I am compulsively organized, and loyal to a fault. That’s not how BPD presents in my studies. In fact any instability is unavoidably temporary because I require to have the whip hand in my life. Which I can understand how that might present as emotional reactive, but I’m someone with depression, ADHD and anxiety. So I’ve got those three disorders, and atop that side effects from the medication. There is one other symptom which might apply; anger, I have quite a bit of that. I’m male, however, and the only accepted negative emotions to display in my culture ARE variations of anger. I wasn’t allowed to present lost, sad, confused, grief fraught, because of the society that raised me. Anyway, I’m reading some books about DBT, and I plan to keep seeing this therapist. I might disagree, but the past decade of trauma has taught me one defining fact; my input is often inconsequential regarding specific outcomes. In layman’s terms; I wasn’t called when the choice to give me narcotics as a child, nor when I was kicked out of school, nor that almost every company either went through massive historic layoffs or literally ceased to be. That’s something my therapist would call an extreme thought, something attempting to simplify but that actually undermines the merit of the argument. Oh, and I dissociate. The problem is, usually it’s when I’m; Drunk High Tired or any combination of the above. So I cease to be particularly mentally present at the point which the intoxicant overwhelms my frontal lobe. I like that, I wouldn’t have a drink unless I was ready to feel the after effects. Log in to Reply TheOpenRoad 7/31/2021 - 3:48 pm “my input is often inconsequential regarding specific outcomes.” People’s childhoods are beyond their control. But you’re not a child anymore. You’re in control now. Log in to Reply Plainwhite 7/26/2021 - 10:16 am Thank you to everyone for responding and giving your insights. Hope you all find peace in your lives Log in to Reply elleInWi 7/26/2021 - 12:41 pm In the 90s they thought i was but a year of observation declared i wasnt Log in to Reply Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment.Subscribe to comments: Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.