“suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”
1) who the fuck are you to tell me my problems are temporary!? I’ll have you know they’re permanent and something I’ll have to deal with my entire life even if i get it straightened out.
2) “your fixes are a temporary fix to my permanent problem” if i go off my meds/stop therapy, if I’m not constantly working on myself, I’m right back where i started. Sounds pretty fucking temporary.
I think these people have their saying backwards and the sad part is, they’ll refuse to understand and just continue to argue about it…. Humans *eye roll*. If you really want to help i have 3 rules
1) sit down
2) shut up
3) open your ears
Don’t just say shit to ‘me’ like it means shit, because it doesnt. If you’re not going to take the time to even understand what the problem is, then you are of no place to give advice. You can’t help something you know nothing about and even if you’re thinking “I’ve dealt with someone that’s depressed before” stop right there and remove that thought from your mind. Everyone is different and sometimes it might be more then just that, so you have to shut up and listen to the person. Why is that so difficult? “I’m suicidal” and the other person is either trying to put a bandaid on an arm that’s hanging there or a cast on a paper cut. Like dude, just shut up for 1 minute and honestly listen.
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I’m listening. I have no idea what you’re going through, but I do know chronic physical pain, anger, ADHD, depression, helplessness, addiction, abuse, useless doctors in a more useless healthcare system, Anger, sticking a gun my mouth and crying.
Yeah, I’ll shut up, but I had to say that you are not alone in your pain no matter the sources. You deserve to be treated properly and doctors can’t seem to understand that patients might actually know how they feel and what works for them and it’s ignorant. Be angry, but I hope you’re able to find some treatment that works for you.
Actually my support situation isn’t that bad. They fall down in moments but i can’t expect them to be able to help with everything (plus watching other people, i seem like a lost cause unless i help myself. Basically I’m so “extreme” my support has no idea how to handle me most of the time). But i read a lot about others and i personally had a therapist not listen to me, so i do understand the frustration a little bit but i didn’t have to deal with it long because i got another one. Oh and my own mother saw my cuts and scoffed and i told her i was suicidal and she pretended to care for about 12hrs. But it’s never been a constant like i read from some people.
It’s more a vent about where the mental health system/loved ones fall down at.
And honestly, lol, it was triggered by watching someone on youtube. They said a temporary fix for a permanent problem, which made me reverse it and think of the suicide version.
Life is temporary and death is permanent. What the fuckever death is i am still afraid of unkownness of it. Having problems decrease quality of life, it includes suffer and tormentful existence in the duration of life.