Ah, the hotline. The stupid number everyone sends you when you say you’re suicidal. Is it really helpful tho? How on earth could they help me through the phone? By the way, how do the conversations look like, do they say generic stuff like “you’re not alone” or something? If they were helpful for you, could you share a story maybe? I just want to know how it’s like, I’m too scared to actually call now so I need some heads up to what I should actually expect. Thanks in advance.
Hey! I wish I had an answer for you, but unfortunately I don’t. I want to know what they tell you, too. Hope someone replys to this so we can find out
never really actually called them, i only did the text stuff. you just explain who you are, what you’ve been dealing with, then they try to give you shitty ass “therapy” forums or do a check up, which only consists of cops coming to your house and checking if you have running water. they focus the convo on you, to at least get you to rant about your situation, but thats it.
Plan updated: not calling, not worth the stress heh
finding outlets is hard, but the text line is only good if you need to vent. i know you don’t really know me, nor am i that good at helping others, but im always here to listen if you need someone. spam me all you want, but i do hope you can find a good enough outlet for whatever happens
Thanks for the kind offer, too embarrased to do that to one person tho lol. I’ll just keep on venting on this site for everyone to see
I’ve called a few times, varying results. The best one was one where I was so mad I was shaking, and the other person just listening, validating emotions, and eventually I blew out the anger, and settled down.
The worst? Once I called during a “busy time” and they told me unless it was an imminent danger, call back later. That made me feel pretty lousy, and i didn’t call again for a long time after.
Most of the time it is moderately helpful, in terms of direct aid. The advantage for me is that my local hotline is also hooked up to my doctor and therapist, so they know how suicidal I get. This is how I have leveraged myself into a position where for the most part I don’t feel anymore. Someday maybe it will be safe to feel, but for now we keep me doped up on prescriptions such that I don’t have the sensory apperatus to feel pain.
I wouldn’t be scared to call. If you can promise them to stay safe, they won’t send police to you. If you want to be really safe call such that it doesn’t show your number, though I’m not sure how the hotline handles that. Point is, you can lie to them, they help you lie to them.
Maybe it’s just like this for me; if I was truly entirely suicidal, I’d go check into a hospital. Then it would be the hospitals job to keep methods away from me, which is the only effective measure at the point someone really wants to die.
I use the hotline to feel out if I should go to the hospital, because it takes away the judgement call for me, I’m a known faulty judge of how serious something is, but if someone else can tell me it will probably be fine, I figure they’d know more than i do.
Ah, that’s expected. Only gonna send help if you plan on dying on the spot. Not suprising to be honest. Sad but true, I agree that the hospital is probably a better place to stay safe for the time being. I mean what are the cops even gonna do, only some person on the phone is keeping you from doing it… I feel like the hotline would be nice for venting, still though. I wouldn’t feel that safe using it, them having my location/number and all. Still planning to see for myself one day. The hotline here might be different, I have no clue so you know, they could send cops over nothing because here suicides are kind of unheard of, if that would happen, everyone would find out I’m struggling and suddenly become attached to me which would just make me uncomfortable… None of the sites have an accurate description of what they really do.Thanks for the helpful response though, much appreciated.
With me it was hit or miss, mostly miss. I did the text line once or twice, always from a packer parking lot where I could see if cops were closing in. No cops, luckily. (I think) as long as you don’t mention immediate plans or means of suicide then they won’t send the damn swat teams. But don’t quote me on that, you never know.
As for helping me, they didn’t do much. Just kept me on the line and kept me talking. I think their strategy is to keep you busy until you cool off. You might get lucky and find an operator who is genuinely empathetic and will understand you. I actually got someone like that who basically told me something to the extent of “wow man you really are fucked and I’m so sorry” (she said it nicer lol), and that was actually enough for me to feel a little better. Genuine hopeless honesty, you know?
But overall I’d say if I really meant to do it that day, nothing she said would’ve stopped me.
Doesn’t hurt to try though. Just don’t mention your actual plans or method. Make it sound like you’re safe but you just need to talk.
Ahh, that’s a shame. Definitely what I expected, I mean what else could it be if it’s literally a job? Workers won’t care about the caller, of course they won’t, they’re just here for the money after all. I don’t blame them, I bet it’s boring to listen to people rambling all day.