I was at the bus stop at like 21:30 PM when this guy came out of the bus walked by and called me a f*gg*t while walking on his way to the grocery store. Since i don’t get harassed often for being trans i was a bit taken a back by his comment i still managed to shrug it off…i’ve had a pretty good day so far so that comment was a minor inconvenience in the moment.
Then the guy came back from the grocery store and came back to the bus stop. There i saw him pissing against a tree…and the rebel in me decided to record him peeing just to embarrass him. I was not gonna just let him mess with me and get away with it so easily. Surprised he quickly tucked his probably small sized penis back into his pants and zipped it up. As expected he got angry…he was like ” hey! yo! whatsup, why are you recording me?!” I then told him it was inappropriate to pee in public like that.
He became mad and started throwing slurs at me while slowly walking towards me threatening to hurt me…i stopped talking i tilted my head forward and looked straight at him from underneath my eye brows (serious face), letting him know that if he was gonna try anything funny with me i would defend myself. He then walked back and proceeded to keep talking sh*t from a distance. Unstable as he was, he was pouring himself a drink right at the bus stop…so i asked him if he’s an alcoholic, he responded saying: ”i’ll tell you what i am…i’m a murderer” (making threats again) my sarcastic response: ”well i’m feeling suicidal so perhaps you can help me”. He told me to ”go jump in the lake” next to the bus stop i told him ”let’s jump together”.
I kept recording him and turned the harassment back onto him till the point he asked me to just leave him the f*ck alone. Which is super ironic seeing he was the one who began harassing me by calling me a f*gg*t. My response was ”don’t f*cking harass me if you don’t want to be harassed yourself, if you show me respect i will show you respect”. He was like yeah whatever just leave me the f*ck alone now…and so i did and we both minded our business as it should of been in the first place.
Confronting him was probably a bad idea, but i felt so eager to just give ”people” (using the word people lightly) who behave like this a piece of their own garbage. He thought he was gonna have an easy time harassing a trans woman, but i decided to flip the script on him UNO REVERSE CARD 😉
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It sounds like he was drunk more so then being an *ss on purpose. Not that it excuses his behavior, if you can’t handle your booze you should probably put it down.
He’s probably an ass too without the the booze. But i agree he should put down the booze,
Yeah, that happened to me at Disney last summer… I’m not as brave as you are. (: Bad a$$ as your sh* was… I just stood in line, and acted like I was handing a pamphlet to my friend like “Want this” and made people laugh …
I probably should learn to confront it better than that because it was multiple times that day…
Where there’s one bigot, there’s 5 allies … People were supportive around me, other times they were quiet… Someday I’ll use your method and bring it out of everyone around me faster.
At Disney aswell…just when you’re having fun they want to try and ruin your day! I think that they usually get off on making a mockery out of you, so if you return the favor for them like 10 fold, it suddenly stops being so funny and they become as hurt as they wanted you to be in the first place.
Imagine they start yelling something at you such as ”f*gg*t”…a nice reply to get under their skin, would be to say something along the lines of: ”well…i’m actually bi-sexual (if you’re not bi just lie about it lol) so that means i could be doing both your dad…AND YOUR MOM! If you wanna add even more salt to injury follow up with: ”unless they’re as ugly as you are, then i’d have to pass on the threesome” lol.
Embarassing my harasser worked like a charm i did not go home feeling hurt, instead i had a laugh about it with other people haha.
Well it’s good that you stood your ground but do be careful, some people are legit crazy and have no problem getting violent with other people.
It’s not to say bigoted, scummy people should be allowed to get away with it, but in most cases it’s just not worth it.
This also happens to non-trans people for different reasons. I saw a vid with a well-built martial arts experts who advised to avoid engaging with any like that unless they are getting in your way and threatening you as you never know what can happen in any confrontation.
If it’s legal to conceal-carry in your state (or have other tools like mace) then it’s worth having as a back up, just in case.
Yeah you’re right. I wasn’t really thinking about my safety. I felt so unafraid to even care, but in this instance a bit a fear would be healthy as it can help keep me alive!
I’m from the Netherlands and we don’t do guns over here, we’re not even allowed to carry mace let alone use it (which is pathetic). But i can get creative if i have too lol.
Diary,
Thanks, yes I’ve been there too…sometimes it’s wise to be cautious, even if it means you have to tolerate some crap from a stranger.
I’m from Canada, same thing here, no tools allowed for self-defense, thank the morons on the Left for that.
Yes here if we carry a tool like a screwdriver for example, so long as its purpose wasn’t for self-defense, you’re allowed to have it….so that’s a bit of a loophole.
I like your idea of being creative, it’s good to have some object/tool that will give you an edge in a real fight….but if it can be used against you, better not to take it-or you have to catch them off guard, hit them in a sensitive point and escape.
Generally where I live, in the burbs, it’s fairly peaceful/quiet. So it’s very unlikely for that to happen, but it’s not impossible.
Bear mace ^
yep whatever works….just aim downwind, or it could backfire. 😛