Imagine you’re on the ground getting beat up. Your attackers keep hitting & kicking you no matter what, they don’t stop just because you’re down, and they never seem to tire. In this moment, are you gonna call a doctor? Fuck no. You’re going to call the cops or Batman or whatever. But doctors, ambulances and therapists won’t stop the beatings, they can only help AFTER the attackers have left you alone.
Mental health professionals love to assume that you yourself are the “attacker”. How many times have you heard “you have to want to get better” and “you need to change your attitude” and all those veiled accusations that you yourself are at fault. Maybe that’s the case for some people but not for me, not for people who are drowning in debt, not for people who are being abused, and not for people whose malaise is due to the shitty nature of the human race.
Mental health professionals (and I’ve been to many) will only give you tools to help manage your pain. Whether it’s drugs or therapy, all it does is attempt to assuage the pain while the beatings continue. That’s like the doctor handing you a band aid and quickly jumping out of the way while you catch a few more uppercuts to the jaw. Then the doctor has the audacity to tell you, “You need to stop getting beat up.” That’s exactly what they’re telling you when the say “You need to lower your stress” or “You need rest” or “You need to take a vacation”. Yeah are you gonna pay all my bills while I jet off to Tahiti and lower my stress? And escape my attackers? You gonna don your Batman cowl and dispose of all my enemies so I can get my rest? No, the doctor will say I have to do that myself. Tell me something I don’t know. I’ve been on the ground getting the shit beat out of me for as long as I remember, don’t you think I realize how alone I am?