What can I do to “cope” with the shit life I can’t seem to escape from? So far, the only thing I can do is stuff my face and feel good for a few minutes, then go back to feeling like shit bc all that does is get me fat and I do not want to be fat.
I USED to exercise like mad, 3hrs a day every other day, and that worked beautifully bc it released my pent up anger. But obviously I can’t do that now. I’m physically fucked so now just walking hurts- something as simple as walking a few blocks. I mean I technically could walk more as exercise is healthy but it hurts my feet and there’s no way around that. Bc walking hurts, I don’t want to do it, even if I know it’s healthy. Also, it’s NOT good for my feet, even if walking is good for my cardiovascular system and all that. So I’m screwed if I do and screwed if I don’t. Don’t walk/exercise and my health suffers. Do walk and my feet get fucked up.
I used to run a lot. But now I have breathing issues so I cannot really run anymore. I suppose I could jog a few blocks but again, that hurts my feet AND I can’t breathe well, so what do I do? Do I do it anyway? And gasp for air the whole time? I mean I already have problems breathing on a daily basis as it is (health issues), when I am not doing anything physical. So bc it hurts my feet and makes breathing really hard, I do not like or want to run/jog. I can “technically” do it but it’s not really good to do it or is practical. Then I feel like shit bc I know I “should” be exercising but haven’t. When things hurt, you don’t want to do it. Have not done actually running/jogging in over a decade.
I’m screwed if I do and screwed if I don’t. And no, I don’t belong to a gym- it takes effort to get to the nearest gym (like 1mi of walking which is fucking far for someone with walking issues) plus it’s $$$. And no, walking around my shit neighborhood is NOT a fun thing to do.
Anyhow, I have no coping mechanism anymore. Watching videos doesn’t help. Listening to music doesn’t help. And no, yoga or journaling does NOT help. The only thing that’s helped in the past was a TON of exercise to release my pent up anger, and I can’t do that anymore. Obviously, I don’t want to get into drugs or cutting.
So what else can I do to “cope” or release anger?
What actually works?
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I’ve heard of these groups where people get together and smash old furniture and stuff. Maybe you can find on facebook or something like that?
they’re called rage rooms, but they’re expensive. i’ve looked into them years ago when they came out. it also, takes like ~75min RT to go there and back, for like 5min of smashing. -_-
Pretty sure I’m talking about something different. I’m talking about informal smash groups that do one-offs sporadically, not a permanant ‘rage room’. I only heard about it because a friend of a friend in london was meant to go film an event and invited me (I didn’t go because I thought it might be triggering for me). But I’m pretty sure it was free, they ask for donated electronics and furniture to smash
i can’t rely on finding random people putting on one-off events every couple of months. my whole point of the post was to find a reliable way to cope.
If the practice sounds interesting to you, you could do it yourself. Unless this whole thread was rhetorical?
Low impact might help, perhaps cycling or swimming? It sounds like cardio has been your thing, have you put any thought into resistance training? A few free weights do wonders, you can even start out with a few heavy cans instead of 5 pound weights
speaking of cans, there’s stretching. You’d be surprised by the amount of muscle you can develop just stretching out, because that’s basically all yoga is. I know a trick for foot muscles using a can is why that was brought up.
Then there’s my ultimate solution, rearranging what I’ve got. Right now I’m ramping up to rearrange my office and eventually my whole house. Big projects like that require planning and strategy, but taking control over your environment, nothing more empowering
well it’s the motivation to get up to do ANYTHING. i haven’t got that, so whether it’s going to go get food to feed myself so I don’t starve, or do anything productive to improve my life, even somewhat…yeah i’m fucked. i need help just wanting to live another day and continuing on life and feeling utter hopelessness, that i’ll forever struggle with this shit till i die -_-
what I’ve been doing is waiting until my frustration rises to the point I have to move to get it out, then I work on something. That’s my outlet, right now my office is half disassembled because I don’t have even approaching the amount of energy the whole project will take, but I can break it into manageable chunks, that’s what I’m doing
Creative writing helps me vent out my hatred, and playing piano or guitar helps me express my deep sadness. I paint on canvas too. Of course, if you feel like burning the candle at both ends, there’s always alcohol and drugs. I recommend those as last resorts.
SH works for me. no sarcasm. i wish it didn’t but it works like a charm