A guy in my class told me I have “girlboss energy” the other day. Im not sure what he meant by that. I know what a girlboss is and I can understand it if he meant confident, but then…why not just say “confident”?
I guess it sort of messes with me a little bc it appears to imply something feminine and comes off as a backhanded compliment.
Maybe im overthinking it. Caught me off guard. No one has ever said that to me.
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That’s a weird one. Depending on other context clues, I would either assume: 1) The guy was genuinely trying to be complimentary, but lacked the social experience to do so appropriately (if he’s young or autistic, for example), or: 2) The guy was just saying whatever came into his mind, and wasn’t considerate enough to care about how someone might take it, or: 3) The guy was lowkey trying to put you down, but lacked the courage to do it in a more obvious way.
Regardless, probably best not to think about it too much, as long as you’re happy with how you act around others.. Some people mean well but are awkward. Some are inconsiderate but don’t mean any harm. And some will take against you and look to fuck with you in small deniable ways, just because they’ve got nothing more interesting going on in their lives. It doesn’t mean it’s about you.
That’s a new one to me too. I guess the only way to read into his intent is to think of his delivery, whether he was being genuinely appreciative or lowkey snark.
In general I like it when people compliment any feminine qualities I might have (especially if it’s coming from a woman), because I think it generally means I have more sensitivities & sensibilities than the typical caveman. It’s something I’m working on 😉
Here’s the context:
I was in Spanish class talking to another classmate of mine, Lauren. I wanted her advice because a lot of times when I talk to women they assume Im flirting with them. I dont mean to flirt with them though at all though, and dont wuite understand what it is that makes them think this.
And Daniel overheard us, turned to me and said, “Its because you have Girlboss energy”. To which other people agreed.
I asked him right then and there what he meant and his face dropped as if he was incredulous at my misunderstanding. And then Profesora initiated the exam and we couldnt talk anymore.
Hmm that’s a real head scratcher. I’d be as confused as you are.
urbandictionary sometimes helps. The top 3 definitions are just about feminist confidence like you said, but definition 4 is interesting:
“girlboss – when your so even cool u was born all swag and ur better then everyone else”
My verdict is it’s a compliment. The gender switcheroo is probably just to be ironic funny, kinda like when girls call each other “bruh” or “dude”.
i use bruh or dude to my female friends too… (I’m female).
But yea I’ll agree with dying2die in the other person trying to be ironic
I always get a chuckle out of that. And I think it’s hilarious when girls say as an expression of surprise “suck my d–!!”
Their confidence is astonishing. Personally I just like to rub it in my male friend’s face saying some thing like about possibly having a bigger c- than them and seeing their reaction is chefs kiss jshshshshs
Well thank you all for your inputs, I appreciate it 🙂