I’ve recently been going out with a girl, who, like me, is depressed and suffers from anxiety etc. We are both aware the other knows of our problems, and we still want to go out with each other, regardless of our occasional down moments.
Unlike me, she is very good at showing when she’s upset, which in turn, upsets me, as normally I’m not sure what has triggered it, whether it was me, or something else. As you can imagine this puts me constantly on edge, trying to figure out what I’ve done wrong.
At the same time, I’m well practised at hiding how I’m feeling, which has caused tension between us. She thinks I should open up more, whereas I believe it’s my problem, not hers. I also don’t like talking about my problems at the same time as she’s talking about hers, as I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to challenge her on how bad her life is.
I’m not really sure if this is healthy in a relationship. Any advice would be appreciated.