“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Jesus, Matthew 11:28
hey everyone.
i don’t have too much to say but i’ll start off by mentioning that this post isn’t at all for myself.
there are a lot of people who come to this site and write down their experiences/situations for others to read, but many of us here don’t really receive help.
the only way things fall away from goodness is because of a lack of God. so basically what i’m trying to say is that if you really want to make your life and yourself better, you need Him, and you need Him more than just an hour a week.
if you’d like to talk about Him or just talk to me, please contact me! don’t be like so so many, and hesitate about talking to me, and waiting until seeing this for the 20th time to contacting me, please…but if you don’t have anything nice to say, then please don’t say anything at all.
if you would be interested in talking to me, please go to this page www.skull09.net, and there’s an easy little way to talk with me if i’m online, and there are also multiple ways to contact me listed, including AIM, MSN, Yahoo, Facebook, GTalk, ICQ and email.
i’m just a 18 year old guy, from texas. i’d really love to help anyone if they would just let me, but the most i can do for you is tell you/try to convince you of what i’ll say now: seek God for help and live for Him. this has worked for me, and it has worked for others – God Himself promises for it to work.
if you’ll accept anything – please know that the meaning of life is to follow your conscience. love your neighbor as yourself.
if anyone would like for me to pray for him/her, please just ask.
thank you very much for reading.
p.s. all of you who even come to this site, need to go here too: www.givesmehope.com
take care,
– daniel
“If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable.” – Paul, 1 Corinthians 15:19
37 comments
Am so with you on that Z.
Purlease, we all have enough troubles without being preached at. If we wanted to find God, we would. Religion is not always the answer, and can even sometimes be the problem. People don’t post here necessarily seeking solutions – sometimes perspective can be gained from putting things in writing. We find that we can sometimes answer our own questions. Non judgemental support is all that is required. I appreciate that you are trying to reach out, but I feel that it isn’t particularly appropriate.
I have tried to let God help me. I’m trying so hard. Yet here I am again.
will you please talk to me about Him, embargo?
Personally, God has never, ever helped me. All the times I’ve begged for His help, nothing has happened. However, other people HAVE helped me. A whole lot. But this is just my experience.
I’m an atheist. And I think it is great if some people find comfort and meaning in God. But I believe it is a path people must choose for themselves, not be forced down, or recruited by others.
I find a lot of suicide sites are littered with posts by Christians trying to recruit people for their church. I basically agree with lostthewill.
But it is really cool of you to want to help K3T K3T K3T. So thanks.
Erhm sorry I was a bit rude. You seem like a nice guy, and I admire you reaching out to help others at such a young age. So all the best 🙂
i’m sorry that God has not seemed to help you. i don’t mean to recruit people to my church… i mean to win people over for the kingdom of heaven, to fish for men, to save souls from hell, destruction, the suicide that we all are slowly committing.
i can probably help you figure out why God didn’t answer your prayers. it’s not that God is difficult to understand, but that there are lots and lots of lies going around about God. yes, He loves us, and yes He is full of mercy, and He is all powerful…but it’s common sense that we have to give something (more than an hour of church a week) to Him to truly receive anything. if we want a good life, we have to give our lives to God. this is what i have done, and i do have a good life, i have all that i need & i shall never lose it.
please talk to me. my contact info is at skull09.net
I have to say as well what you are doing trying to give people hope is very admiring, especially being at a young age. Suicide is one of the most misunderstood issues around. Its hard to believe in anything when you are in that zone let alone believe in God. I’m a catholic and even I lost faith in God. Itd fact that we are the ones that control what happens in our life my our choices we make. But what is hard to come across is the guidience and support that many of us seek and need. And that usually comes from the people that we care the most about. Religion in these cases isn’t the answer. But its very nice that you are trying to reach out to people, but a lot of us don’t believe that believing in God is what will make things better. We should live our life for him we should be living our life for ourself
Thanks man. Good advice although I sorta agree about the recruiting and joining church thing. That’s not what people really want to hear. Although I do believe that God can bring comfort especially through people. You can’t expect a light to come outta the sky and an angel descending to Earth (although that would be pretty cool). Help comes in places we are sometimes familiar with. Anyway, thanks Daniel for reaching out to people in need.
God hates me. I’m convinced of it. I don’t know what I did.
god hates Me and I hate him. My night just took an epic nosedive. Why do I even bother anymore. I’m typing this on My cell while walking down a busy street in a major citty just after midnight. Of course a car won’t hit me, that would be an easy way out of My misery. god has a sick sense of humor.
Well, embargo, I don’t know what you’re up against, but I do know I’ve felt the same way as you…or close to it. I’m not going to try to recruit you to any church or tell you how to feel better. The only advice I can give is to believe. Believe that God DOES want to help you, but that the devil does not, and is trying to trick you. Now, I’m sure someone else will read this and scoff at the mere mention on the devil, or satan, or even God. But if they’re so smart, why are they not king or queen of the world?!?
While I am no expert on anything, embargo, I can say with great confidence that God DOES exist, and that, at the lowest points – yes more than one – in my life, when I could see no hope, he brought me peace. I can’t say that he provided everything I asked for, since he knows better than me what I – and you – need to make it. Just believe…ask him for help, and accept what he offers. His answer isn’t always what you expect, or think you should have, but it IS the right answer to get you through. I believe BECAUSE I’ve been in your shoes…and felt the same way. If you need more than a few words on a website to convince you, I suggest you rent “It’s a Wonderful Life” – starring Jimmy Stewart – to discover that you’re not alone.
Good luck, friend –
Joe
Basically my entire life I’ve struggled with making quality relationships, either friend-wise or dating-wise. I feel like I’ve been a loner my entire life and it’s not my choice to live this way but it’s the life I feel I’ve been given.
SO many times things seem to be going well or even amazing when out of nowhere some unforseeable event happens and there’s absolutely no way I could have prevented it, and now that person is out of my life forever. This is why I feel I have a curse or God hates me. My life is pretty pleasant otherwise, it’s just that I’m freaking tired of being alone. Seriously, there seems to be an invisible hand constantly ruining my relationships.
Tonight I was invited to a show by a band I do some work for. They put me on the guest list along with 2 other friends (but my “friends” both ditched me of course).. so I get there and he didn’t even have me on the list and I got denied entry. I showed her our e-mail conversations on my phone and she was just like “sorry, I can’t let you in”.. Sure it could be a minor oversight but I’ve been talking with the guy daily for the past week. I was only going to support him and say hey but he didn’t even remember..
I know this example in itself isn’t a big deal, but it’s a typical day in my life.. I’m one of the nicest, laid back, easiest to get along with people you will ever meet and I’m sick and tired of being fucked over. I never find anyone who I have much in common with, but every rare while I do, and in those cases they often have no interest in being friends with me. I just don’t get it.
I DO see hope, I DO try, but I ALWAYS fail.. and every time I do, it’s harder to pick up the pieces and start over again.
Embargo, it sounds to me like you’re a sincere, caring person who expects the same from others. I can relate to that, and can relate to your disappointment when others – who can’t think beyond themselves – don’t give you the same level of respect and attention you give them. That’s not YOUR fault, or curse – it’s theirs! Don’t blame yourself for their shortcomings – just hang in there, and you’ll find someone who is right for you – I DO believe that. Everything happens for a reason…but we usually don’t realize or understand that until we look back at it after time has past. Only then do we discover that the hard times have made us better people.
You are absolutely right. I don’t care how insignificant a person is in my life, It’s rare I forget – because I know what it feels like to be on that end..
uhg if god wants to help us so badly why did he let us get to point in the first place seems kind of backwards to me
yeah that does seem a little backwards, but you need the rest of the story. God didn’t do this to us – He gave us free will, and we did it to ourselves. please talk to me if you’d like to talk about this more….
to embargo:
the only real relationship i was ever in fell apart the day that it was discovered. my girlfriend kept me a secret for nearly 1.5 years and then when her mom found out about me – boom, our relationship died that day, because my girlfriend let her mom control her – i apparently am not worth it. that was 282 days ago… but yeah, i’m really not worth it. my girlfriend needs to do what is right simply because it’s right, and not the wrong thing out of fear or the right thing out of selfishness. those were her 3 choices. she did the wrong thing out of fear. so yeah i realize how stupid the world is and how it treats us all like this – nice guys finishing last and all that, but all that really did was show me that the reason the world’s like this is because people reject God… God is good, and if i try to be good – i get rejected too! so wait, that’s messed up – so what do i do? deal with it – if people reject what is good, then they will not have anything good – simply as that, their own punishment is what they sought out, so i don’t have to get revenge or anything like that. God will have vengeance anyway.
why don’t you believe God exists? because He hasn’t shown Himself easily enough in your life? well even if you were somehow happy enough to not be on this website, i think there would still be people on this website – so because one person, such as myself, believes in God – because God is good – why is it that you should disbelieve? at that rate, if you believe in God because He is good, then you couldn’t ask someone who doesn’t believe in God to believe, unless they knew that God is good. so what i’m trying to correctly say is that don’t look for God – He’s there, you’re looking for other things, you’re looking for what you want, no need to look for God because He’s already there. if you think God only should exist if He is good to you – then you’re just being mean to Him. He is good to all of us by letting us live, by giving us an opportunity to be a part of His kingdom – take this opportunity!
i don’t know what else to tell you but nothing of this world is worth it, and so when you spend 18, 20, 25, however many years you’ve spent, trying to get something of value out of this world – it’s no wonder you end up here, so many people do. it doesn’t mean anything but the truth – the truth that the world cannot make you happy.
please talk to me. my contact info is in the post above
I don’t think I ever said or implied that God doesn’t exist. I fully do believe in God, but I also believe he’s made my life difficult. I do not subscribe to the beliefs of any religion, and generally prefer to keep my relationship with God personal and private.
My issues in life have been constant ever since I was a young teenager. I’ve always had issues with making decent relationships, be it friends or dating. Just to give you an example of why I feel cursed or that He plays tricks on me, is like, the first girl I fell in love with, similar to your experience, once her parents found out – they threatened to kill us. She is of a different culture and there is no way we could ever be together. In my opinion this is the only true love I’ve ever had. It took over 10 years to get over her. Since then, it just seems whenever I meet someone new and start to actually like them, some random unforseen event will immediately bring it to an end. It’s like some outside force, God, “the universe” just does not want it to be. Nobody I know has had experiences or extreme bad luck like I have.
Now I also fully believe that the universe/God gives you ideas and hints/suggests to you what you should be doing, and I will admit I feel like I am being called to move to a certain city but I don’t know why. He knows I’m unhappy where I currently am, I’ve hated it ever since I moved here, so it’s really my own fault for forcing myself to stay and fearing change/uncertainty – especially in this economy.
I still feel extremely uncertain as to my purpose in life. I have no desires whatsoever other than meeting people, but I have no desire to meet people in my current city because I want to leave. So really I think the only option is to move to the city that is “calling me” and start my new life.. Maybe the “city calling me” will be replaced by a new calling..?
I’ve honestly had a good life (as a loner) so far, but it’s mostly the result of decisions made/influenced by family and friends/recommendations. I think I’m also depressed for not having followed my own heart and desires.
embargo, remember that as you go through life you will regret much more the things you did NOT do than something you did. So if you feel like there is a calling from a higher power to move to another city and start a new life, then do it. You’ve got nothing holding you back in the place where you are now. It’s very important to listen to the inner feeling.. You don’t need to know why or how. Just now that its a hint for you and from my experience you will never regret following your heart and desires. That is one thing in life that is worth doing, trust me. There is people out there, real people. And forget all the past relationships and mistakes that did not work out. Look towards the future it has many things in store for you. You will find everything you want but first you must give up everything you don’t need. Don’t be afraid to move to a new place and start a new life.
Everything you said is true. The only thing stopping me is me.
Embargo, sometimes it’s is hard to get through life. I understand. But killing yourself isn’t always the choice, I know it seems like it. And I’m not going to say that you will go to hell if you do. But, maybe you can go out there in the world. Visit places you have only dreamed of visiting. IF all else fails, that I do not know what to do. Maybe look for love in little things. I know you are trying, we all are.
Also, keep in mind that if you do decide to kill yourself, then I would recommend doing research. Also keep in mind that if you do fail, there will be consequences. For example, you could be paralyzed and then you would be stuck in a much worse position.
I wish you luck with your life. I truly do.
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/ <– this link helped me cope a little, maybe it will also work with you.
I’m not as suicidal as some of the other people on here so trust me I’m not quite there yet. I’ll admit I’m pretty careless about my life though. I feel kind of bad that I get attention on here because I’m not one of those who really really needs it, even if I am depressed.
Unfortunately (haha) I don’t think I can ever kill myself. If my life means anything, I give it the meaning of having to outlive one person. If they go then I’m a goner for sure.
And I agree if one fails at suicide and ends up paralyzed or deformed, that would be Hell in its own right.
I’m afraid to be too hopeful, because I don’t want to be let down again, but let me just say this.. I just received a message that (if it pans out) would solve one of my problems.. I contacted this person because we have something in common and she just got back to me, eager to help. Wish me luck. I’ve already overcome some serious obstacles getting this far…
I wish you tons of luck. I hope it all works out.
embargo, i would appreciate it if you would talk to me so i could try to really help you and get to know you better. do you have a way to contact me from the link skull09.net ?
sorry for misunderstanding you about your beliefs
and embargo, i hope everything turns out fine for you.
I respect your heart and your message. I am a Jesus-follower and believe whole-heartedly in him and his ways. I want to try to help you understand, though, that your message can easily be misperceived in such a way that you give Jesus a bad name.
If you continue to feel convicted to try to help people here, please let me encourage you to tweek your language. For example, a relationship with Jesus might be extremely comforting and helpful…it is for me…but having a relationship with Jesus doesn’t necessarily heal depression (no more than it necessarily heals lung cancer) nor does the lack of a relationship with Jesus necessarily cause depression (no more than it necessarily causes ALS).
There’s a fine line between encouraging people with God’s love and compassion and leading them to believe you mean their current status is a result of God’s wrath for their bad behavior…it is very easy to intend to do the former but end up inadvertantly doing the latter.
Jesus offers incredible hope…but depression isn’t our punishment for not being faithful enough. I know that’s probably not what you mean, but that’s what it can sound like.
You have chosen a unique audience. It isn’t my place to say God hasn’t called you to do what you are doing. Instead, I want to help you see that it would be easy to do more harm than good…please pray about your decision to mnister here and for God’s guidance in your ministry.
To be an effective messenger, you have to know how your audience is perceiving you. I hope this helps you more effectively pursue God’s purpose for your life.
K3T. You dont want to help anybody. You are just going to preach to them the bible paragraphs written by ignorant men two thousand years ago. We have warned you a million times but you dont care, you dont listen and you are completely mentally kidnapped in your brain by the bible which has completely perturbed you. You cannot communicate with anybody because you have lost the ability to do it. The only thing you do is read them the bible and you do it to people who are on the border line of utter despair and need to be understood and then you come completely careless to paste the paragraphs you pasted for the poster before.
Anybody here who writes the best that comes from their hearts is doing better than you are doing. “No=one” has written a very insightful posting, but it is of no good to you. You are completely brainwashed. You dont even care if you make someone kill himself in desperation. You would probably say that he had it well served for not listening to you, in a sort of rationalisation of saddism. The best thing you can do is leave this site and create your own web and see how many people want to sign up for your great salvation remedy instead of preying into a website where people in distress are looking for someone who really cares and does not come up with bible preachings copied and pasted!!!!!!
@No-one. You have written it in a master way. That clearly tells about your very high intellectual level. But K3T will not listen to what you say. You are missing the fact that he neither listens nor does he talks out of himself. He thinks he is on a gods mission sent in some flying sauce to Earth. He thinks he is some kind of prophet, and he thinks that we are the envoyees of the devil for temptation and who are trying to sabotage his divine preachings etc
Muspelhem, did you ever think God maybe sent those people that helped you? I noticed he seems to work in indirect ways. I’m not here to preach, I was just offering a different perspective.
K3T, plz say a prayer for me. thank you
If all this bad happened becuz we turned our back on God then whhy did my father die of alzheimers at fifty-nine when he went to church and prayed for others every chance he got?Can you really answer that?
Hello. I am unsure if I even believe in God, I’m a pretty confused 16 year old, unsure on what to believe. I feel alone in this world, with no support for anything, mainly what happened. I question God, as would he let something bad happen? To someone that didn’t deserve it.. he has made me doubt him
as i am reading this n my lunch break i could not get through all of the comments but i wanted to leave a short note… maybe some of you have already said this… there is much to be said for inner strength, and faith in oneself.
to the original poster – it is wonderful that you want to help so much and I hope that some have reached out to you because regardless of your faith or past, the fact that you are here now and want to help others is great – but “god” or “faith” in “god” will do little for any of us if we cannot first have faith in ourselves. even the people who talk to you must first believe that you are real and sincere, and you must be real and sincere to actually help anyone. and that’s not “god” that’s YOU being a good person, because YOU want to.
it’s a bit of a chicken-and-egg situation and for a non-christian, i’ve had an awful lot of close christian friends – but they were and are my friends because at their cores, i can tell that they are good people and would be, even if they had never heard of a bible.
much love…. keep on keepin….
@ speakout
Thank you for your perspective 🙂
To answer your question, no not really. This’ll sound harsh, but I don’t believe in God, I don’t believe in Santa, I don’t believe in the Easter Bunny.
What I do believe is that believing in these things works as a form of therapy for some people, and I fully support them in using religion in that way.
I acknowledge that there are many things about the Universe that we are ignorant of, and having experienced minor psychosis myself, I acknowledge that life can be completely weird at times.
However, over the later years, I’ve grown increasingly tired of the word “God” because it has so many negative connotations, and I do believe that mindless belief is at the root of many bad things in our world today.
So personally, no I don’t believe in God, and I don’t need “Him”.
But I don’t think it is wrong if you do believe, and if you need him.
Best wishes,
muspelhem
Embargo, I would be your friend if that was ok with you…
Whether religion and it’s teachings are real or fake, literal or metaphor, I don’t think it matters because nobody knows for sure. I don’t much think about it. I prayed recently because if God exists then I want Him to know where I’m at, and also I blatantly asked for my living situation to improve or I’d kill myself. Do I believe that God exists? I don’t know, I’m an agnostic at heart, but I do feel better knowing that I prayed sincerely and spoke my heart, whether to myself or to a higher being of some kind. It’s not something that I think about much any more though.
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