  don’t call me a hypocrit because i’m talking about this being in my position. anyway, i have this one friend and i’m sure she has an eating disorder. she eats as little as possible, tiny nibbles when she eats a sandwich, when she comes to parties she’s not piggging out like the rest of my friends, and she’s rail thin.
  another friend i have has an eating disorder and cuts and burns herself. she chugs pop before meals so she’s not hungry and she has a stash of lighters and razor blades in her room. i’ve know she cuts for a while but just the other day the edge of her shorts went up too high accidentaly and i saw all these purple scars on her upper thigh. she too is rail thin, it looks like you could break her arm with your own hands – i probably could – and she thinks she’s too fat. over the summer she gained some weight and now she almost seems a little depressed. she went from 100 pounds to 110 pounds. she’s fifteen. both of my friends are.
  i’ve been debating for a while whether or not to tell a counsellor at school. i think the second friends mom knows what her daughter is doing to some extent, but i don’t think she know’s all of it. i don’t think i do either but i don’t want anything bad to happen to my friends. they look so fragil.
  and i know i used to cut and pop pills but i was able to stop before it got too bad, i don’t think their stopping. the one friend still cuts and burns herself, eating next to nothing and filling up on Coke Zero, and the other eats as little as possible.
  what should i do? i don’t want to loose my friends.
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I wish i had friend like you, It seem you really care for your friends. I would tell your counsellor or hint it to them, there parent or something. They need your help and let then know your there for them and love them. They might be angry at first but you realize the harm they are causing to them self. Stay with them it will show them how much you care, it not a easy road and hard to go alone.
i know that. i think on monday i will go talk to the consellors. and i think i’d rather loose their friendship than loose them all together.
Talk to them before you say anything. Tell them how much you’re worried, how much you care, and that you know something of what their going through. Ask them if you can help. If they still won’t try to stop, or won’t do anything to help themselves, then tell someone.
the thing is this has been going on since we were in grade 6. i wasn’t that close to them then but now we’re alot closer. but now we’re also in grade 10 now. i think it started getting worse when we were in grade 8. really bad in grade 9. i don’t know why i never said anything. my other friends and i have talked about telling someone before but we never actually did. the thing that really scares me though is the one who cuts, burns, and starves herself thinks it’s some sort of a joke. she comes to school and she’ll laugh about how her mom takes her lighters away from her but she always gets more.
I was diagnosed with anorexia in 8th grade but it really started around the 6th grade, the longer you weight the harder it is for that person to over come it. They say once you do something for 20 days start it becomes addiction , which makes it harder to kick, but they are using burn, cuts and starving in way to cope maybe with something that bothering them. there need professional help and alot of support.