You don’t have to inflict more pain to get rid of your pain, you have the power to stop. Please do, its dangerous, I would love for your life to continue. Talk to me…
“42 scars up on my flesh, i always used to think cutting was the best. Then i realized, i wish not to die. I wish not to feel more pain, so its time to stop this game. Life is good if i make it that way, please for me, for you. Listen to these words i say.”
Not saying to go ahead and do it, but try to free yourself from the guilt, as it only feeds into it. Is it possible you could find a support group of some kind so that you could talk with others going thru the same thing?
Rawrimaturtle i know people on here did not think it was a good idea when I suggested to you to get professional help. Surely it cannot be worse than doing nothing. I am not an expert on self harm but it is quite common. I think you accept that there is a problem but you now need to find a solution. I hope you got my last email.
Take care and if you need to talk you should email the people I suggested. They helped me too.
Hey, I know its scary. I don’t know what to advise you because everyone is different. If you were my sister or daughter I would say it’s ok and go with you to get help. I would tell you not to worry about anything in the world.
I remember that you told me your mum cried when you told her.
I have a really bright idea which might just solve the problem. Do it anonymously over the telephone first. Speak to a qualified doctor and see what they have to say.
Morgan, google “self injury support groups,” I don’t know that youd be able to find an actual physical group in ur neighborhood but there are a lot of online support groups out there. I would recommend you look into seeing a therapist as well, if you don’t feel comfortable with your guidance counselor.
Hey Morgan,
Don’t talk….write….you are very good at that….but leave out the drama….no one understands it unless they’re dealing with it. I have dealt with this from the opposite side as well…my youngest is currently depressed and suicidal…but luckily her self-harming is not so dangerous….yes dangerous.
I don’t know your Mom….but I do know mothers….I would write something like this….
Dear Mom, (insert, friend, counsellor, whomever)
I have tried to talk to you….but when I start to talk…the emotions get the better of me. So sorry….but I had to write it down.
I have been feeling pretty bad …and am having some trouble dealing with my feelings and emotional pain lately…but I want to ask for some help because I am kinda scared about the way I think sometimes. I don’t want to die…I don’t want you to worry about that…but sometimes the pain gets too much and I start to think wrong. Friends have told me that most of this is normal for my age and stage of life…but I don’t think I feel comfortable telling them about my feelings…I’m not sure I feel comfortable sharing them with you…but only because I couldn’t stand to hurt you any more. I know that you love me….but sometimes it gets so hard to feel it or accept it…but I know you do. And I love you to…but I want to get help so I can be around to take care of you some day….and I know it will help to talk….but I don’t know who I can trust….I don’t think I’m crazy….and I don’t want to go to any hospital…and I have trouble talking to people about this. So do you think you could help me find someone to talk to?
Something like that…eh? Even though Jana and I can talk about issues….when it comes to her feelings….it is best if she writes them down first…then I can’t interrupt her either…lol…gives you a chance to reread and edit as well. You can’t take back what has happened…but use it to move forward….it doesn’t really help does it?…to cut I mean?…atleast not long enough to consider it helpful….but it is only one method of self-harming…I have done much worse…because I couldn’t talk….just like you. That is why I am suggesting to write. Don’t admit to the self-harm…at least not right away…or unless you are scared of repeating….but tell them you think about dying….escaping….but don’t admit to being suicidal. Again…unless you are scared.
amakua
thank you. i might do that… but I’m still scared.. becuz i know if i write her a note she will still want to talk in person… i can’t do that.. its to hard… and i hope your daughter feels better soon 🙂
Hey Morgan,
My Jana can’t talk to me either….that is why I talk….she writes…lol…and your parents are never your best counsellors….but you need them to help you help yourself….sometimes a hug helps as well….lol
So if your mom wants to talk….listen….and then write her back…
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You don’t have to inflict more pain to get rid of your pain, you have the power to stop. Please do, its dangerous, I would love for your life to continue. Talk to me…
“42 scars up on my flesh, i always used to think cutting was the best. Then i realized, i wish not to die. I wish not to feel more pain, so its time to stop this game. Life is good if i make it that way, please for me, for you. Listen to these words i say.”
I made that now. See ya..
Not saying to go ahead and do it, but try to free yourself from the guilt, as it only feeds into it. Is it possible you could find a support group of some kind so that you could talk with others going thru the same thing?
I donno….
Rawrimaturtle i know people on here did not think it was a good idea when I suggested to you to get professional help. Surely it cannot be worse than doing nothing. I am not an expert on self harm but it is quite common. I think you accept that there is a problem but you now need to find a solution. I hope you got my last email.
Take care and if you need to talk you should email the people I suggested. They helped me too.
I’m scared to talk to my school counselor tho
Hey, I know its scary. I don’t know what to advise you because everyone is different. If you were my sister or daughter I would say it’s ok and go with you to get help. I would tell you not to worry about anything in the world.
I remember that you told me your mum cried when you told her.
I have a really bright idea which might just solve the problem. Do it anonymously over the telephone first. Speak to a qualified doctor and see what they have to say.
i could try that duke. but i wouldn’t know how… i really shy and when i start talking about my feelings and stuff i start to cry..
Morgan, google “self injury support groups,” I don’t know that youd be able to find an actual physical group in ur neighborhood but there are a lot of online support groups out there. I would recommend you look into seeing a therapist as well, if you don’t feel comfortable with your guidance counselor.
i wouldn’t mind seeing a therapist, but that means id have to tell my mom again,,,, i don’t know if i can do that
Hey Morgan,
Don’t talk….write….you are very good at that….but leave out the drama….no one understands it unless they’re dealing with it. I have dealt with this from the opposite side as well…my youngest is currently depressed and suicidal…but luckily her self-harming is not so dangerous….yes dangerous.
I don’t know your Mom….but I do know mothers….I would write something like this….
Dear Mom, (insert, friend, counsellor, whomever)
I have tried to talk to you….but when I start to talk…the emotions get the better of me. So sorry….but I had to write it down.
I have been feeling pretty bad …and am having some trouble dealing with my feelings and emotional pain lately…but I want to ask for some help because I am kinda scared about the way I think sometimes. I don’t want to die…I don’t want you to worry about that…but sometimes the pain gets too much and I start to think wrong. Friends have told me that most of this is normal for my age and stage of life…but I don’t think I feel comfortable telling them about my feelings…I’m not sure I feel comfortable sharing them with you…but only because I couldn’t stand to hurt you any more. I know that you love me….but sometimes it gets so hard to feel it or accept it…but I know you do. And I love you to…but I want to get help so I can be around to take care of you some day….and I know it will help to talk….but I don’t know who I can trust….I don’t think I’m crazy….and I don’t want to go to any hospital…and I have trouble talking to people about this. So do you think you could help me find someone to talk to?
Something like that…eh? Even though Jana and I can talk about issues….when it comes to her feelings….it is best if she writes them down first…then I can’t interrupt her either…lol…gives you a chance to reread and edit as well. You can’t take back what has happened…but use it to move forward….it doesn’t really help does it?…to cut I mean?…atleast not long enough to consider it helpful….but it is only one method of self-harming…I have done much worse…because I couldn’t talk….just like you. That is why I am suggesting to write. Don’t admit to the self-harm…at least not right away…or unless you are scared of repeating….but tell them you think about dying….escaping….but don’t admit to being suicidal. Again…unless you are scared.
Let me know how you’re feeling
Amakua
amakua
thank you. i might do that… but I’m still scared.. becuz i know if i write her a note she will still want to talk in person… i can’t do that.. its to hard… and i hope your daughter feels better soon 🙂
Hey Morgan,
My Jana can’t talk to me either….that is why I talk….she writes…lol…and your parents are never your best counsellors….but you need them to help you help yourself….sometimes a hug helps as well….lol
So if your mom wants to talk….listen….and then write her back…
Let me know what you think?
Amakua