Can anyone explain to me why a teacher/counselor must call your parents if they think your health or life is at risk??? Especially if they know it isn’t going to help anything. I just don’t get the point, especially since 4 counselors have called my parents and it hasn’t helped once. That being said, I understand they call because they don’t want you to get hurt. BUT what if I am willing to get help and I really want to get better (I have an eating disorder, anxiety disorder, and possible other disorders) but the only thing holding me back is my parents just because I am so afraid of them being involved. I want help, I need help, but I am 17 years old so the law says my parents have to know everything (or so everyone keeps telling me). Tomorrow my parents are being called AGAIN. They think I lie about all of it and make it up for attention because I always make sure I appear fine in front of them. I will do anything to get out of them being called, but i still truly want help. I can’t lie my way out of it this time because a teacher that knows the truth is going with me to make sure I don’t. My teacher told me she HAS TO CALL. Because the other day I passed out and didn’t tell them, but honestly they don’t need to know. Please someone, anyone, help me. Anyone know a way around it??? Or anything I can say to get her not to call??? I can’t have the stress of my parents knowing again!
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Don’t show your feelings to your teacher. I’m not going to say: “It’s for your goodness that they call.”, I know you feel forced and parents aren’t always helpful. Returning to life is of course the best option.
They have to call because they are, by law, your Guardians.
Every region, state, country, has laws that are very similar.
But it is also true that these same laws usually put the onus upon your Guardians to provide care and sustenance to the standard of the community.
This is very interesting because in your case the teachers keep telling your parents to cover their ass. But it sounds like they are the ones standing in the way of you getting help.
And there is another consideration. In some jurisdictions a 17 year old can take steps to become their own Guardian. In essence maybe you could get all the help you need on your own. Of course in most jurisdictions, if there is a child welfare concern, you could actually get a new Guardian, someone to make the right decisions for you.
I know.
This all sounds pretty scary and complicated and not very helpful!
So here is a better idea;
I wrote a post on here called
the Mentor
Search for it and read it.
It describes the kind of person who can help you, someone who will listen and someone who will advocate for you.
Advocate means fighting for what you need and want.
The problem with the school is they can’t fight for what you want or need, they are always going to take your parents side.
I hate schools when they do this!
If you can find me please email,
Good luck!
Thank you! I found it and the whole mentor thing sounds like my psych teacher! it’s just hard that they have to tell now, but they haven’t yet. I’ve been stalling for time 🙂