Hate is a strong word
Yea I fucking knew that already
But here’s a list of things I hate
I’ll start with the fucker who raped me
Joe
Rose
Daniella
Dorcus
Jamie
Jake
Luke
Steve
Homework
Hospitals
Meds
Feds
Mornings
hope rings
Oh and especially myself.
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You may hate me for writing this…lol but it’s impossible to hate yourself. Get ready…..you’re pure love, plain & simple.
Now your experience on the other hand, that’s an entirely different story. If I were you I’d feel a whole lot of anger & anger is good for a while. At some point whenever you feel inclined, you may think about forgiving yourself cause you were the constant in all your experiences with all these people. What was done to you is an absolute violation & a huge wrong…I empathize, truly. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different than it was…which is an avenue to acceptance so YOU can move forward and have peace. Was what happened a reflection of the fantastic person you are? Absolutely not, it was an experience along your path that sucked balls but has presented itself for you to either learn & grow from or bury yourself with. It’s your choice. You deserve a whole lot of happiness, & I’d encourage you to give it to yourself. Take care.
I have to disagree with you softsoul. I believe that anyone can haates themselves. They hate how they act, feel, think, talk, treat others, their personality. I hate myself too so I understand lostchild.
Lostchild I am very sorry about hearing that you were raped. I hate hearing that. I’m sorry. Ha I like your list though. If I made mine I think it would be very very long.
SoftSoul writes some wise words.
I’d add the ‘hate” is an action that requires the expenditure of energy and time. Hate is an activity – it requires someone to actually do it … it is not something that you can sit back and watch or forget and let take care of itself – you MUST be an active participant to hate.
hate is a HUGE waste of time and energy. why? because you are the only one participating and it has no effect on the hated … in fact, it has the OPPOSITE effect … someone who did you wrong did so to cause you pain – it is wrong for them to do that – they have no right … but they obviously have no moral compass … which means they can’t or won’t control the “urge” to do something bad. If they will do something bad without a 2nd thought, then for you to ACTIVELY hate them will make the evil one feel as though they are CONTINUING to harm you!
They WANT you to hate them! It means you are actively obsessing about them. To hate makes the evil doer win every day you actively hate them – they relish in that fact.
stop letting them “win” every day … stop actively hating – let it go.
To hate means every day you have to think about, talk about and act in an actively negative way – this can ONLY make all the rest of your thoughts and activities suffer from this overt negativity – everything you do must first pass through these thoughts of hatred and everybody see it in you and on you … they don’t see the “why” they just see the dark, twisted, tortured thoughts that are consuming you. This hatred make those that love you and care about you and normally enjoy your company … it makes them step back, and shy away … this isolates you … and it FEEDs the hate within you.
Let It Go
No one is saying you have to like the bad actors, or trust them or to acknowledge them in any way … You are free to dislike them and ignore them … even avoid them
but stop letting the bad actors consume your every thought and action and push those you care about away.
wise dawg
Cheers Dawg! @ Determined….I appreciate your disagreeing, it’s a small point…as you said you can hate all those things, but it is coming from a place of choice, & it is reflecting the experience we are having of ourselves but it doesn’t mean it is a true reflection of our true nature which is pure, positive energy. I’m not saying this to be right or encourage a disagreement…I say this from my own experience as I too and still to some degree carry a lot of anger within me. As I’ve gotten in touch with it, I have a better understanding of what it’s about for me. I chose to hate myself not realizing all of it came from the way I was raised and the behaviour I adopted amidst my circumstances as a child growing up in the volatile household I was in, there was no unconditional love growing up for me….as I’ve done my own inner work, I came to a place of freedom within myself to make a choice that serves me, that is positive. I realized a lot of what I thought were my beliefs were a result of how I was conditioned which wasn’t an authentic reflection of the real me. Cheers!
“Let It Go” <–Yes, yes, yes. 100% agree with Dawg here.
Hatred is such a waste of time…