I feel so out of sorts today.
Usually my boyfriend drops anything he is doing to discuss things with me. He knows that if i don’t talk to someone and get everything off my chest then i will hurt myself out of frustration and rage. But lately he doesn’t want to listen.
I know i sound really clingy and selfish but it’s getting to the point where i just need to talk to him about ANYTHING and he goes offline or just ignores me.
He’s staying at a friends house and has been there for a couple of weeks due to problems at home. He’s unemployed and i recently moved away (only 30 minutes). Every time i want to talk to him on Facebook he’ll just go offline or he replies once and then says “got to go, bye”
I got sick of this so i just came out and said “I need to talk to you, i’m on the edge and close to cutting and i just need someone to talk to”. He then proceeded to get angry at me and ignored me for a whole day then said “Sorry next time i’ll listen, i just didn’t want to hear it especially since you seem so happy”
He obviously isn’t listening to me. I am not happy.
I think he’s sick of me loading onto him. Which is fine. I’m not going to tell him anything anymore.
But who will i talk to now? I mean SP is great but it’s not going to stop me from cutting. It’s just going to help me feel part of a community.
Not really looking for advice. Hes a great guy and i wouldn’t want to listen to my shit all the time either. I guess i just have to suck it up and get on with my life by ignoring everything.
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Solace,
I know you don’t want advice. I’m giving it anyway. Why? Cause you can’t ignore everything. It doesn’t work that way, no matter how much we want it to. Okay, he might be going through something right now and you may need to listen to him. Remember, relationships are reciprocal. I’m not saying that I know the whole situation between you and your boyfriend. And I’m not trying to overstep my bounds here. Please understand that. Maybe he’s frustrated because he doesn’t know how to help you. That’s just one example. Maybe something other than you is dragging him down. Take a half hour or hour and try listening to him. If he is usually attentive and he’s missing the boat, then something might be on his mind. But you have to talk to each other to find out. Sorry if I offended
Don’t worry. You didn’t offend me. Thank you.
I never really thought of it in that way. I guess sometimes you can’t see past your own mistakes to think that it could be something else other than you. We’ll have to have a talk in person ^_^
I really appreciate this advice. Thank you 🙂
Anytime, Solace. Glad I was able to help a little.