I’ve been bullied ever since i was younger
I’ve been called stupid, useless,worthless, been told to go kill myself, i just don’t have it in me. I have self harmed myself in the past. I didn’t cut myself or anything, instead i gave myself earser burns. i stopped doing that when my friends got really worried about me. my  best friend killed himself when we were 16. He’s the reason i could never kill myself. I saw the pain in our friends eyes when it happened and thinking about killing myself now even kills me to picture the look in their eyes. Or my boyfriend…i’ve been with him since august 24th, 2011. our one year is coming up on friday. I couldn’t do that to him, not when he cares so much for me.  my family and friends and boyfriend mean the world to me.
I will never understand the point in bullying. What gives you the right to call someone ugly, stupid, worthless? what gives you the right to tell a guy OR girl that no one really loves them and that they should just go kill themselves because everyone would be “happier”? I just don’t understand. It doesnt make you cool to go and bully someone to the point where they are depressed and they feel worthless, im one of the people who get bullied, i suffer from depression because of it. You guys have nothing better to do then to bully someone, grow up and realize the damage you cause people like me
but at the same time i feel like i’m losing myself, i feel like i’m losing all hope in getting through this. I just don’t know how to get through it =/
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There you must be arrogant and talk to them the way they talk to you. They are nothing for you, so why should you care?
I guess that the reason i care at the moment is because the person who bullied me recently used to be my best friend, then once she and my friend broke up she hated me and i think the reason is because i hung out with other friends because she told me she was going to be busy. then she claimed that i backstabbed her but wont tell me how i did and the fact that she said im ugly and shit and that my boyfriend can do better then me hurt and when i would try to defend myself she called me a ***** because i didnt want to talk face to face because i have nothing to say to her
I, too, just like you have been bullied. I know not why people do it, but maybe it’s really because the bully doesn’t like him/herself? Idk.
I could never do that to anyone.
Happy early aniversary, by the way.
it really sucks to be bullied, it’s happened all my life and i won’t bully anyone either, cause i know how it feels, and thank you 🙂
I heard some one say once that you should think of it as doing a public service since you helped the bully boost their low self esteem at your “expense”. It has nothing to do with you, they just chose you as a target because of their own insecurities. cliche but true. Just be glad you are not them, how sad does your life have to be to put down others in order to bring yourself up. I am mean to my mom sometimes due to my depression and I feel like such an ass for being rude to her. It makes me wonder how far gone you have to be to not feel remorse for being mean to others.
yeah exactly, like and the fact that this girl was considered my best friend and did this to me it kills. i mean i have other friends and my boyfriend but this girl was my other half we understood each other and i know her secrets and no matter how much we hate each other i couldn’t go and bully her or anyone else, hell i can’t even go and tell her secrets like she can go and tell mine =/
First off, PLEASE don’t give up. I know everyone says so and there’s a big campaign going on around the term, but it’s really TRUE: It DOES get better. I suffered through several years of bullying when I was in jr. high school and high school and I don’t know how I made it through, but surely enough, about the time everyone nears their senior year, they start to “grow up” slightly and outside of school, most adults don’t tolerate it and it really isn’t something you’ll likely encounter again.
Remember that the bullying has NOTHING to do with you. It affects you the most, yes, but the bully is the one with the problem. They do it to reflect attention away from themselves because they’re scared, ignorant and sometimes just plain old mean.
If you can, just IGNORE them at every turn. Don’t give them the satisfaction of engaging you. It can be very unnerving to them when you don’t say one single word in response. I mean, don’t utter so much as a syllable. They’ll get bored with it and realize it’s not working if you aren’t reacting to what they’re saying or doing.
Most importantly, it DOES and WILL get better. I promise that because I speak from experience. Remember a person’s character isn’t about what they do, but how they react to pain and strife. Be strong and resolute and never ever give up. You WILL get through and the bullies one day will look back and be deeply ashamed and embarrassed for the way they acted.
Keep your head held high and treat others the way you want to be treated. The rest will come together on it’s own. Take care.
thanks 🙂 she blocked me on facebook after telling me to go kill myself like my best friend and she was saying how she doesnt understand how my boyfriend is dating me and everything else. I haven’t been bullied since high school and then this happened. i don’t think she understands the pain she puts me through, a month ago we were best friends then this happened. i could forgive her cause i don’t hold grudges but i don’t want her in my life, i don’t trust her and i lost all respect for her
Laurieglory92 I hear you. More than that you are actually helping me heal by telling your story. I too suffered the loss of a best friend. I never thought anything could break us up. We were so close for eleven years. And we are adults. She was six years younger than me, I was 38 when we met.
Sadly I have to say, bullying doesn’t always vanish when you hit a certain age. Adult bullying, particularly in the workplace, is an ever-present threat for many of us. It was only when I took the ill-fated decision to try to work with my friend in a social firm of which she was one of the ‘directors’ and I was a volunteer, that the bullying started to occur. She ganged up with her fellow ‘directors’, all women incidentally, in trying to paint me as some kind of ‘abusive’ monster.
Like you, I totally lost trust in and respect for my friend. Her treachery shocked me to the core. Oddly I still loved her. But in time I stopped with the pleading letters, email and text! It was all to no avail. She had completely hardened her heart against me and was prepared to walk away without a backward glance.
I don’t think I will ever know what it is to have no integrity, to delude oneself to that degree, to respond to love and trust with hatred and vindictiveness.
I would recommend (particularly to adults, or anyone who is likely to become an adult one day) a book by a guy called Tim Field called Bully In Sight. Google it. You can easily get it on Amazon. It does what it says on the tin. Gives you a blow by blow account of the psychological motivations of a bully, how to spot one, how to pre-empt bullying, how to stay one step ahead of the bully, and generally gives you the necessary toolkit to survive bullying.
It concentrates on bullying in the workplace but has plenty of relevance to anyone with a decent reading age who is dealing with any kind of bullying situation.
Love to you Laurieglory92. Remember. As Tim Field says, only the best are bullied.
Zoe x
thank you 🙂 it’s extremely heart breaking to know that at one point she was the one i went to when i needed a shoulder to lean on, she was the one i trusted with my life, etc. it just kills to know she could turn on me, then she calls me immature and pathetic and yet shes the one bullying me. it just saddens me that i mean nothing to her a
Bully’s are cowards …just remember that !
very true