I’ve managed to kill my sex drive, or else I never had one, but the longing for companionship keeps me up at night… If you find a way to kill it, let me know.
Orangish, I think what Donnie meant is ‘become asexual’. Like flowers and plants.
As tedious as a sex drie can be when not in use, called me old fashioned, I don’t thing I could do it the plant way. For one thing I don’t like bees
You could do the orchid way and lure in insects who think you’re a female of their species. Slightly different, but much more amusing. Mine’s not been in use for ten years; I’d rather be rid of it entirely.
Can you kill it off completely seems like these things are addictions for people. Wouldn’t you have to know what causes it first to know how to cure it? is it simply many years of training that causes us to crave these things so strongly, or is it something biological or chemical. Then how do you cure the addiction, Maybe just isolate yourself completely from the objects of the addiction. Find some new more powerful addiction to replace the old? Find some drugs or maybe surgery? lol I dunno but if you ever figure out the answer Orange I would very much like to know how 🙂
I did not know that’s how orchards work. I think maybe I already work that way. I once got a guy home on a one night stand (tuned into 2 weeks) and just before the clothes came off i thought it would be funny to tell him I was really a guy (im not). It was hilarious for me wathing him squirm. He was not impressed. Although entertaining I don’t think I’ll play tht practical joke again. I think some people might have beaten the crap out of me
I’m kinda a botany fanatic — I <3 orchids, especially. Sex-talk really fucks me up though. lol
For the first five years or so I really, really wanted some, but didn't care enough to go out and have a one-night stand or anything like that (I probably could have); the last five years, it's turned into a kind of festering sore spot. Chemical castration sounds wonderful.
I don’t think having a sex drive is an addiction.. I think a certain amount of sex drive is a healthy thing. When I am depressed sex drive is the first thing to go. I think a lot of people think sex is a Terrible thing because of religious beliefs so they punish themselves for having natural thoughts.
Chemical castration sounds awful. My understanding is that you still have urges and impulses, just can’t do anything about it. Can’t even jerk off
No guilt involved — I think not having sex for so long is helping to make me into someone I’d rather not turn into. And, I’m doubtful that’ll change. Past relationships all ended very badly, and I’m in favor of doing away with the whole spectrum of experience.
sex drive is addicting. just like a drug it sends serotonin to your brain (which it loves) and you know you like it. some people can only get so much during orgasm… it would explain porn addiction, rape. not 100% of these cases were people just being “damn i need me a serotonin fix” but still it is addicting…
NDF anyhjg has the potential to turn into an addiction. You can get addicted to eating watermelon if you want. That does not mean watermelon is neccesarily an addiction, only that it can be but not neccesarily will be. I say this because one of the other commenters said sex was an addiction, like it was a cut and dry case, but it’s not.
Orangish is this about giving up on relationships? Sex does complicate relationships…
I’m not in love with anyone at this moment. And it’s not just one girl who’s done that, but every one I’ve been involved in. Last was my best friend since childhood — that’s a smack in the face you don’t recover from.
i agree with you absolutely. just like everyone doesnt get addicted to heroin, but some people do. my point was that when that much chemical (in your brain) is involved it is alot easier for some people to not want to stop till the point where it is harming them and others… believe me it happens…
Hmm. Maybe you just need a break… Ever thought of joining one of those Buddhist retreats where they only eat rice once a day and meditate all day? I wonder if monks have sex drives. Maybe they are so busy obsessin about food they forget about sex
SA WAT DI! monks are fucking cool. i mediated with some monks once, they are cool. except for the part that they dont acknowledge woman. me and my fiance went to the temple with gifts and they wouldnt even let her hand it to them. i had to take it and hand it to them.
I know what u mean I am the same… But a lot of people with hyperactive minds find it really good to learn how to meditate, learn control. I can’t be bothered, I don’t have any problem with my needs or desires. But if you don’t like your sex drive I bet meditation is a good way to control it
I designed the logos for several Buddhist temples in South Florida. 🙂 That’s about as close as I’ve been able to get to trying practical Buddhism. But it might be worth looking into. I’m still leaning towards SSRI’s, but need to get back on some kind of insurance for that option.
thats awesome! did they have fat buddhas holding up a wok? (sorry i dont know why i chose to be racist) im not into religion or meditating but for some crazy ass reason my doctor recommended it.
well maybe addiction was the wrong word choice one_day, but if I say I want to live a completely solitary life, but I still crave the companionship of other people. Isn’t it very similar to an alcoholic saying I want to stop drinking but I still crave alcohol. In both cases you are saying you want one thing, but your will is being constantly challenged by cravings you can’t easily control. I am not even saying its good for you or healthy to want that type of complete isolation. Simply making the comparison.
orangish is a uaa nut. So he/she is in the right place. Are You are not. word one-day. I think you are herecause you help people. orangish is a pompis prick from the usa & you know it.
Am allso a barsted. Too. orangish your are pomps. Coming from a English person. Dont take it to hard. You will find a mate once more. Ok. A pomps one like you.
I mean, aside from the fact I’m posting on a suicide website. It is kind of implied, but there are no plans for that at the moment. Well, there are, but they’re on the back-burner until sometime in the future. 😛
Even if you killed the sex drive the phycological perception of it and social pressure would still be present as it’s stablished that if you lack sex you are not as “cool” as someone else that does. Sex is like money, the more you have of it, the more successful you are. You feel like a loser if you see others getting it and yourself being deprived.
Do you care about what others think of you? Do you have a competitive nature? If the answer is no, you’ll suffer less. In my case, the answer is yeas and it’s an extreme problem.
I have a stubborn streak a mile wide. I’m also very competitive, but I only care about what certain people think of me. And I’m only competitive over certain things.
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Become A SEXULL
we’re human. we are built to socialize. there is literally no way around it. even hermits talk to crabs.
Donnie. As much as I appreciate your comments, I have no fucking clue what you’re on about half the time.
I wouldn’t mind talking to crabs; it’s people I’d like to not itch for. You know?
What do flower’s do.?
It would be nice to not have that need. But you are not allowed to kill it off, because I say so. Ok? k.
Forever is the boss of me. 😮
Can I at least kill off my sex drive? SSRI’s worked for that before. lol
I’ve managed to kill my sex drive, or else I never had one, but the longing for companionship keeps me up at night… If you find a way to kill it, let me know.
I’ve tried and failed miserably. The longer I avoid it, the worse it is when it comes back.
Orangish, I think what Donnie meant is ‘become asexual’. Like flowers and plants.
As tedious as a sex drie can be when not in use, called me old fashioned, I don’t thing I could do it the plant way. For one thing I don’t like bees
I think Paxil really kills off your sex drive.
You could do the orchid way and lure in insects who think you’re a female of their species. Slightly different, but much more amusing. Mine’s not been in use for ten years; I’d rather be rid of it entirely.
One-day you get me thank’s.
Can you kill it off completely seems like these things are addictions for people. Wouldn’t you have to know what causes it first to know how to cure it? is it simply many years of training that causes us to crave these things so strongly, or is it something biological or chemical. Then how do you cure the addiction, Maybe just isolate yourself completely from the objects of the addiction. Find some new more powerful addiction to replace the old? Find some drugs or maybe surgery? lol I dunno but if you ever figure out the answer Orange I would very much like to know how 🙂
I did not know that’s how orchards work. I think maybe I already work that way. I once got a guy home on a one night stand (tuned into 2 weeks) and just before the clothes came off i thought it would be funny to tell him I was really a guy (im not). It was hilarious for me wathing him squirm. He was not impressed. Although entertaining I don’t think I’ll play tht practical joke again. I think some people might have beaten the crap out of me
@donnie is ok. I speak predictive text semi dyslexic gibberish too.
I’m kinda a botany fanatic — I <3 orchids, especially. Sex-talk really fucks me up though. lol
For the first five years or so I really, really wanted some, but didn't care enough to go out and have a one-night stand or anything like that (I probably could have); the last five years, it's turned into a kind of festering sore spot. Chemical castration sounds wonderful.
i think he meant asexual in the morrisey kind of way.
I don’t think having a sex drive is an addiction.. I think a certain amount of sex drive is a healthy thing. When I am depressed sex drive is the first thing to go. I think a lot of people think sex is a Terrible thing because of religious beliefs so they punish themselves for having natural thoughts.
Chemical castration sounds awful. My understanding is that you still have urges and impulses, just can’t do anything about it. Can’t even jerk off
Yeah, that’s why I’m looking at SSRI’s — Paxil is actually first on that list.
Can I ask why you hate having a sex drive? Is it because you’re not getting any, or is it because you jut don’t like sex? Guilt?
No guilt involved — I think not having sex for so long is helping to make me into someone I’d rather not turn into. And, I’m doubtful that’ll change. Past relationships all ended very badly, and I’m in favor of doing away with the whole spectrum of experience.
sex drive is addicting. just like a drug it sends serotonin to your brain (which it loves) and you know you like it. some people can only get so much during orgasm… it would explain porn addiction, rape. not 100% of these cases were people just being “damn i need me a serotonin fix” but still it is addicting…
Ok some guy broke/cheeher out you. Right. Ok We get it. Sorry.
It happen’s
And you still love him/her.
Donnie, I’m a dude. And straight.
Then let her go.
NDF anyhjg has the potential to turn into an addiction. You can get addicted to eating watermelon if you want. That does not mean watermelon is neccesarily an addiction, only that it can be but not neccesarily will be. I say this because one of the other commenters said sex was an addiction, like it was a cut and dry case, but it’s not.
Orangish is this about giving up on relationships? Sex does complicate relationships…
I’m not in love with anyone at this moment. And it’s not just one girl who’s done that, but every one I’ve been involved in. Last was my best friend since childhood — that’s a smack in the face you don’t recover from.
i agree with you absolutely. just like everyone doesnt get addicted to heroin, but some people do. my point was that when that much chemical (in your brain) is involved it is alot easier for some people to not want to stop till the point where it is harming them and others… believe me it happens…
Hmm. Maybe you just need a break… Ever thought of joining one of those Buddhist retreats where they only eat rice once a day and meditate all day? I wonder if monks have sex drives. Maybe they are so busy obsessin about food they forget about sex
That’d be one idea, but I’m not Buddhist. I can’t do meditation — mind’s hyperactive to the point of absurdity. lol
SA WAT DI! monks are fucking cool. i mediated with some monks once, they are cool. except for the part that they dont acknowledge woman. me and my fiance went to the temple with gifts and they wouldnt even let her hand it to them. i had to take it and hand it to them.
I know what u mean I am the same… But a lot of people with hyperactive minds find it really good to learn how to meditate, learn control. I can’t be bothered, I don’t have any problem with my needs or desires. But if you don’t like your sex drive I bet meditation is a good way to control it
I designed the logos for several Buddhist temples in South Florida. 🙂 That’s about as close as I’ve been able to get to trying practical Buddhism. But it might be worth looking into. I’m still leaning towards SSRI’s, but need to get back on some kind of insurance for that option.
thats awesome! did they have fat buddhas holding up a wok? (sorry i dont know why i chose to be racist) im not into religion or meditating but for some crazy ass reason my doctor recommended it.
well maybe addiction was the wrong word choice one_day, but if I say I want to live a completely solitary life, but I still crave the companionship of other people. Isn’t it very similar to an alcoholic saying I want to stop drinking but I still crave alcohol. In both cases you are saying you want one thing, but your will is being constantly challenged by cravings you can’t easily control. I am not even saying its good for you or healthy to want that type of complete isolation. Simply making the comparison.
orangish is a uaa nut. So he/she is in the right place. Are You are not. word one-day. I think you are herecause you help people. orangish is a pompis prick from the usa & you know it.
Actually, the guy who came in for the designs was a short dude who looked like a bald Jet Li. He was really cool.
And Donnie is a jackass douche-nugget werewolf who ate all my chickens. 🙁
thats tight, the ones i met just look like the dude from the S/T rage against the machine album.
Am allso a barsted. Too. orangish your are pomps. Coming from a English person. Dont take it to hard. You will find a mate once more. Ok. A pomps one like you.
That’s okay, I think you’re pompous, too, so I’ll call it even. 😉
Dont off your self. orangish you will be ok. & find love.
Orange can’t off hisself! Orange is my North, and my south, my east, and my west
Donnie can be a asshoo. Did’nt mean to hurt. No one.
When did I say I was going to off myself?
I mean, aside from the fact I’m posting on a suicide website. It is kind of implied, but there are no plans for that at the moment. Well, there are, but they’re on the back-burner until sometime in the future. 😛
lol Donnie I think anyone who has spent any time here knows not to take offense at anything you say, you aren’t an ashoo you are cool 🙂
Even if you killed the sex drive the phycological perception of it and social pressure would still be present as it’s stablished that if you lack sex you are not as “cool” as someone else that does. Sex is like money, the more you have of it, the more successful you are. You feel like a loser if you see others getting it and yourself being deprived.
I hate money, too. I’d like to live with as little of it as I can.
Do you care about what others think of you? Do you have a competitive nature? If the answer is no, you’ll suffer less. In my case, the answer is yeas and it’s an extreme problem.
I have a stubborn streak a mile wide. I’m also very competitive, but I only care about what certain people think of me. And I’m only competitive over certain things.