The only opinion/compliments that matters is your own. Most people with a beaten-down-low-self-esteem tend to think they’re ugly “monsters” or whatever. I don’t know what to tell you folks, though.
Totally anecdotal evidence, but as I’ve surfed my way across the Internet for the past 4 years, I’ve found most people don’t give themselves nearly enough credit in terms of their looks. On some level though, you’ll only start to feel attractive until you decide you are. You can be utterly gorgeous or hunky and still hate yourself to death.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and an unstable self image kinda comes with the territory. For most of my life I loathed myself and told myself I was disgusting and that no one would love me. That’s how I felt. That’s what I saw. I had no confidence whatsoever and that was just “reality”.
I started working out and slowly, over time, I began to feel confident again. At first I ignored the attention I received from the opposite sex, and chalked it up to being a fluke. As time went on, though, I became more sure of myself. Now I can accept the fact that people are looking at me. Friends and family marvel at what’s underneath my shirt and I feel more valuable, and that I can approach any girl and not feel scared. I have playful conversations with female store clerks and am the first to initiate conversation. It’s a process that took time, but I went from totally hating myself to feeling like my looks were no longer a road block in my pursuit of love.
The bottom line is anyone can have this. You can’t really change what face you’re born with, but working out will send anyone up the totem pole at least a couple notches. A guy with with a 4/10 face turns into a 6/10 when his body is awesome. A 6/10 turns to an 8/10. You’ll be really surprised how much more confident you feel when you take care of yourself.
Ladies, you can do this too, guys really don’t require that much from you to be honest. I know for me, I don’t really care what your breast size is or how well you can make a duck face. I don’t even care what your education or job prospects are. I’m simply attracted to fun, sweet girls that put just a little effort into staying healthy. Even overweight girls can be hot. You don’t have to be a supermodel, you don’t need to go buy a fake rack. Guys are insecure too; we just want you to love and respect us. Validate us, and you’re well on your way to our hearts. Give us a sincere compliment that makes us feel valuable and you’re already half way there.
The biggest thing though, and something that deserves it’s own thread, is that looks fade. They fade for everyone and they are only one part of who you are. TONS of really unattractive people find love. Are you an unattractive man? Guess what, there are unattractive women. If you’re willing to lower your superficial standards, you’ll find a lot of lonely people who will be willing to date you. I sincerely believe there’s someone for everyone, but sometimes it takes just a little work.
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Me too.
And I’m fucking gorgeous~
The only opinion/compliments that matters is your own. Most people with a beaten-down-low-self-esteem tend to think they’re ugly “monsters” or whatever. I don’t know what to tell you folks, though.
Totally anecdotal evidence, but as I’ve surfed my way across the Internet for the past 4 years, I’ve found most people don’t give themselves nearly enough credit in terms of their looks. On some level though, you’ll only start to feel attractive until you decide you are. You can be utterly gorgeous or hunky and still hate yourself to death.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and an unstable self image kinda comes with the territory. For most of my life I loathed myself and told myself I was disgusting and that no one would love me. That’s how I felt. That’s what I saw. I had no confidence whatsoever and that was just “reality”.
I started working out and slowly, over time, I began to feel confident again. At first I ignored the attention I received from the opposite sex, and chalked it up to being a fluke. As time went on, though, I became more sure of myself. Now I can accept the fact that people are looking at me. Friends and family marvel at what’s underneath my shirt and I feel more valuable, and that I can approach any girl and not feel scared. I have playful conversations with female store clerks and am the first to initiate conversation. It’s a process that took time, but I went from totally hating myself to feeling like my looks were no longer a road block in my pursuit of love.
The bottom line is anyone can have this. You can’t really change what face you’re born with, but working out will send anyone up the totem pole at least a couple notches. A guy with with a 4/10 face turns into a 6/10 when his body is awesome. A 6/10 turns to an 8/10. You’ll be really surprised how much more confident you feel when you take care of yourself.
Ladies, you can do this too, guys really don’t require that much from you to be honest. I know for me, I don’t really care what your breast size is or how well you can make a duck face. I don’t even care what your education or job prospects are. I’m simply attracted to fun, sweet girls that put just a little effort into staying healthy. Even overweight girls can be hot. You don’t have to be a supermodel, you don’t need to go buy a fake rack. Guys are insecure too; we just want you to love and respect us. Validate us, and you’re well on your way to our hearts. Give us a sincere compliment that makes us feel valuable and you’re already half way there.
The biggest thing though, and something that deserves it’s own thread, is that looks fade. They fade for everyone and they are only one part of who you are. TONS of really unattractive people find love. Are you an unattractive man? Guess what, there are unattractive women. If you’re willing to lower your superficial standards, you’ll find a lot of lonely people who will be willing to date you. I sincerely believe there’s someone for everyone, but sometimes it takes just a little work.