I feel exactly the same, I want to tell my bestfriend but I am afraid she will tell someone thinking she would help me doing so. Which for me really wouldnt.
Try to hold on to someone or something good in your life. Better days have to come, that’s what I try to tell myself..
If you must, it’s simple, tell her you’ll kill yourself if anyone else finds out. I only recommend this because you already seem willing to do it and while I hope you do not, it seems like a good solution. I hope you’ll trust her and she won’t ruin in your life by telling people, but it happens sometimes.
Not sure if you are still reading, but if you are, I hope you will consider what I have to say. Trusting a friend with this is OK, but I hope you will trust your mom or dad instead (or also). My son didn’t confide in his friends specifically, but he did mention to one person offhandedly about “if I die.” this was totally out of character, but this person did not know how to respond. He then played it off as just a “moment.” If I had this information, I know I would have responded differently. As a parent to someone who took his own life, I beg you to give a trusted, safe adult the chance to help you. Your username alone tells me you want to survive. I can’t say it too often–when you tell this safe adult, use the word “suicide.” People who have not suffered depression do not understand how bad things are and they don’t understand the real risk of suicide. Help them understand. Help yourself. You deserve a beautiful life. And as someone who lost my favorite person in the whole world–your death will devastate your family and loved ones. My son’s death has had repercussions that I know he didn’t intend. But we went from a happy, well adjusted, loving family to wounded, heartbroken people. Every day is a battle for me. Please don’t do this to yourself and your family and friends.
@lostmybeautifulson, even though your msg was meant for the OP, I am also moved by your msg.
It is very difficult for me to bring suicidal thoughts to my parents as they don’t know what it is like to have depression. On top of that, I am much older now (30 in about month), it is even more challenging to tell my parents/siblings.
Within the past two years, I did open up a bit more, and told my parents about my suicidal tendency, but they are just not experienced enough to handle it.
The top one reason that has truly prevented me from doing any harms to myself is the the guilty feeling of leaving my parents/siblings/few trusted friends behind. I don’t want them to be in pain either. So many times, they were internal struggles inside me to stay strong. But this may change as time goes on if fewer and fewer people depend on me.
The top one reason that has truly prevented me from doing any harms to myself is the the guilty feeling of leaving my parents/siblings/few trusted friends behind. I don’t want them to be in pain either, “because of my actions”. So many times, “there” were internal struggles inside me to stay strong. But this may change as time goes on if fewer and fewer people depend on me.
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I feel exactly the same, I want to tell my bestfriend but I am afraid she will tell someone thinking she would help me doing so. Which for me really wouldnt.
Try to hold on to someone or something good in your life. Better days have to come, that’s what I try to tell myself..
If you must, it’s simple, tell her you’ll kill yourself if anyone else finds out. I only recommend this because you already seem willing to do it and while I hope you do not, it seems like a good solution. I hope you’ll trust her and she won’t ruin in your life by telling people, but it happens sometimes.
Thank you. I need to talk.
Sure, always happy to help, glad you’re opening up to someone.
Not sure if you are still reading, but if you are, I hope you will consider what I have to say. Trusting a friend with this is OK, but I hope you will trust your mom or dad instead (or also). My son didn’t confide in his friends specifically, but he did mention to one person offhandedly about “if I die.” this was totally out of character, but this person did not know how to respond. He then played it off as just a “moment.” If I had this information, I know I would have responded differently. As a parent to someone who took his own life, I beg you to give a trusted, safe adult the chance to help you. Your username alone tells me you want to survive. I can’t say it too often–when you tell this safe adult, use the word “suicide.” People who have not suffered depression do not understand how bad things are and they don’t understand the real risk of suicide. Help them understand. Help yourself. You deserve a beautiful life. And as someone who lost my favorite person in the whole world–your death will devastate your family and loved ones. My son’s death has had repercussions that I know he didn’t intend. But we went from a happy, well adjusted, loving family to wounded, heartbroken people. Every day is a battle for me. Please don’t do this to yourself and your family and friends.
@lostmybeautifulson, even though your msg was meant for the OP, I am also moved by your msg.
It is very difficult for me to bring suicidal thoughts to my parents as they don’t know what it is like to have depression. On top of that, I am much older now (30 in about month), it is even more challenging to tell my parents/siblings.
Within the past two years, I did open up a bit more, and told my parents about my suicidal tendency, but they are just not experienced enough to handle it.
The top one reason that has truly prevented me from doing any harms to myself is the the guilty feeling of leaving my parents/siblings/few trusted friends behind. I don’t want them to be in pain either. So many times, they were internal struggles inside me to stay strong. But this may change as time goes on if fewer and fewer people depend on me.
Update the last paragraph for “clarification”
The top one reason that has truly prevented me from doing any harms to myself is the the guilty feeling of leaving my parents/siblings/few trusted friends behind. I don’t want them to be in pain either, “because of my actions”. So many times, “there” were internal struggles inside me to stay strong. But this may change as time goes on if fewer and fewer people depend on me.