Why do I have to spend all day around people that think depression is a joke? I don’t like hearing, “oh, depressed people are just fishing for compliments”, or “depressed people should go die already”, I don’t need to hear people’s thoughts on what is essentially me. So much for this care people have.
I hate it when people just devalue everyone with depression. They treat it as some kind of joke. They don’t bother to think, “this person is going through a pain that makes them want to end their one and only life”. Everything is just too crazy for my liking. Maybe it’s wrong for me to question this. Everyone else in society seems to be content with joking about suicide, so maybe it’s all just me. I hope not though. I would like to think the behaviour towards some people is fucking disgusting.
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Suicide and depression scare most people and fear doesn’t like making room for empathy or compassion.
For many people understanding is a threat to their sense of self where any understanding suicide and depression might cause them to look to closely at their own lives.
I never correct someone who has the belief that suicide is selfish. I know that for many of them that it is this belief that keeps them from falling off the edge themselves.
What they don’t know, or want to know, is the line between the thinking of it being selfish to kill oneself (I know the pain it would cause others so I cannot) and the thinking that it may be selfish not to (my existence is the source of pain for others and myself.)
Only those who have experienced the hell of the latter know true darkness.
Showing compassion for those who don’t understand may be difficult but then the person most affected by compassion is the one being compassionate. By being compassionate you no longer have hold on to anger and can set boundaries where sometimes the most loving thing to do is to end the interaction or relationship.
Yeah, I understand your argument. I suppose there’s lot of theories why people don’t care. I don’t really feel that motivated to be compassionate towards people that make me feel like I am, and I most definitely do not want to place myself at risk of ending up in greater harm by being compassionate to them. I think I may do a lot of ending of relationships…
People really don’t understand just how a depressed person really feels, thus they may joke about it and not believe that depression is a real medical condition. In recent years, schools and society in general have been becoming more aware of the seriousness of depression and suicidal thoughts.
People that joke about depression, I promise you, are likely depressed themselves.
let them say what they need to, they are just afraid to see truth