My boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago, and I feel like crap.
Everyday I see him around, he’s flirting with another girl.  It hurts so much
to know he has already moved on and I still haven’t. I feel like my heart
has been ripped in half. Everyone keeps telling me to move on, that he’s not
worth it. But every piece of advice they give me I start missing him even more.
I stopped eating like I used to. I eat at least one meal a day sometimes I don’t
eat at all. I can’t go an hour without thinking about him. Everything just reminds
me of him. Everyday is just constant crying for me. Everyday I come home I
lock myself in the room and just start crying. I try to pretend like i’m happy
and everything is fine. I tell everyone I have moved on and I don’t care about
him anymore. But the truth is I miss him, and every single moment I spent with him.
I gave up so much just to be with him. And it seems like that doesn’t even matter
to him. I just miss him, I miss our talks, kisses, hand holding. I just miss everything
about him. Â But I know he will never come back. I’m trying harder everyday to get
over him. But every time I feel like i’m happy, I see him and I break again. Any advice?
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He broke up with you, so I understand why you’re having such a hard time. It’s easier for him to move on. But you should too when you’re ready. I believe in fate and if it happens for you well this new guy will be your world. He’ll treat you like a princess and worship the ground you walk on. He’s just not there yet, but he will be. Second chances are usually weapons. So don’t blame yourself for anything and look forward to the road ahead, where you’ll find the perfect guy who’ll never stray. Not even for a second.
Thanks for your help <3
I’m so sorry you’re hurting so bad 🙁
When my last boyfriend dumped me I cried and cried and criiiiiiiiiiiiiiied. Every day. The first day I didn’t cry was 14 weeks/2 days. After that I stopped thinking about the fact that I cried every day. I still cried but it was less. Now if I cry it’s only a little bit, normally. Your mileage may vary. I make it harder on myself by keeping in (distant) contact with him.
People who are telling you to move on DON’T GET IT. I know some people can just jump from guy to guy… can’t stand to be alone and want a new guy to distract them from the pain… well, not all of us are like that, and personally, I don’t think it’s healthy to jump into something new when you haven’t even grieved the old properly.
I don’t have much by way of advice… just do what you have to do to get through each day. If you can avoid seeing him, please do… that sounds like absolute torture, watching him flirt with other girls (and he’s an asshole for doing that, btw). Take care of yourself *hugs*
The first step you young ladies should do is Acknowledge it to you can’t get over this guy of you keep that little teddy bear he gave you or pictures of him or whatever you have of him for some weir reason people tend to keep this things eaven if they don’t notice. Try fnding some good things about this break up for example you get tie now t finally meet someone who will treat you like you should be treated and not be an asshole and yeah take whatever ammount of time you need to forget him. Hope you find someone who cares and forget this guy. (^.^)(^_^)
Sorry for you pain. Truely I am. Some people handle that well. some do not. I feel like a hypocrite for telling someone else how to deal with this when I kinda suck at it…
Here is what I do know…. He moved on. He wants other girls. Thus, if you objectively look at it – he is a slimeball and NOT good enough for you. Real love would never do that. Real love fights through. He chose not to. So – congratulations on finding out that he is not the guy for you. Sorry it hurts. But that is one less guy you will have to deal with.
Now see if you can write down what qualities you liked about him. For real – write it down on a sheet of paper. Both good things and bad things.. And be honest. I think writting it out can help. And dont do the weak “it is just *him* crap – be specific about what you liked (hair, face, body, chin, humor, brains, sincerity, sweetness, caring, humble, whatever). And the bad too (and yes – he had bad too – everyone does).
Now – look around at some people you have not considered before and see how many of these good qualities are in some other guy.
NOBODY is perfect. So, you have to accept that. Your guy was not perfect either – or he wouldnt be trying to hump some new skank. But, take those qualities you wrote down and find a new guy with those things and just talk to him….. Get to know him. Maybe he will be even better.
Best wishes and *hugs*