Somedays when I want to cry out about what’s gone horribly wrong in my life, my friend starts to complain about how “nobody likes her,” or “her crush hates her,” when obviously none are true.
And the group of friends I have flock to her, trying to make her feel better, even though I’m obviously behaving differently. And I understand that she needs support, but I need some help as well.
So eventually, Â I learned how to put on a false smile and look like I’m happy. I kept on telling myself that I’d weigh them down if I told them what’s wrong.
After all, they never asked.
I just get sick and tired of supporting people and having no one ask me three wonderful words.
“Are you okay?”
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would you answer honestly if someone did ask you that?
Odd. I usually rejoice when people refrain from that question. When they do ask, i often feel compelled to remark with sarcasm or disdain, because NO, OBVIOUSLY, I’M NOT OKAY AT ALL! But all you want is to make small talk and for me to say i’m fine, even if i’m not, just so you’ll feel better about asking, while also avoiding having to feel like you need to help anyone who really isn’t okay!
I hate that question. It’s disgusting to watch people desperate for a “yes,” when they should already damn-well know, the answer is going to be “no,” unless i just flat-out lie, just to make them feel better, which isn’t going to make anything better.
@op: this is why I am the way I am. I am the strongest and most capable person I know, because I’m sick of no one caring if I’m ok. This way… Everyone cares!
If I trusted them enough.
so i know it’s then stupid for me to ask because that one person said he/she hated it but…are you ok?