Hi, I am 35 years old. I am married for the second time. I love my wife. I lover her more than anything in the world. We have just had a beautiful baby girl. She’s 2 months old. I love her so much. We have four cats. I love them a lot. I would never harm my family, the only thing I want is to make them happy. But I can’t.
When my wife and I met, I was married, and so was she. It’s a complicated story, but we both got divorced and moved to US where I had just gotten a job opportunity. When we got here I realized the opportunity was not as good as I thought. We had to tighten our belts, and my wife, who did not sepal English, had to learn in a Community Center. We had no money for car, so we had to bike everywhere. Rain or shine. There are no buses where we live, everyone has cars, so even groceries had to be on bike.
By this time my wife was lonely and sad, so she asked for a pet. I suggested a couple of cats, since they would make company to each other once we are out. She wanted a little dog, but accepted. This was one of the two biggest mistakes of my life, and I regret this so much. You make decisions every day, and we don’t realize how some of these decisions may destroy your life, forever. After six months, we were riding back home, it was raining, and we found two little kittens starving and hiding from the rain. I felt sorry and proposed to take them home. This was the second huge mistake in my life. My wife just hated me for doing this. While it was the moral thing to do, I feel she hates me for putting four cats inside our house. She hates me because of the medical costs for them, she hates me because of the mess they make, she just hates me because of my stupid decision.
We had many arguments, all because of the cats. Mainly because they started to scratch under the door of the bedroom at night. My wife would wake up and run to hit them. I found an electric carpet that kept them away, and this calmed things down a bit. Every morning I wake up before her to clean the house. I take out the cat litter and feed the cats. When she wakes up the house is clean, but during the day the cats mess everything again. We live in a 2 bedroom apt and they are only allowed in the living room and patio.
I have done everything  I can to keep peace at home. I can’t convince myself to give the cats away, I feel sorry for them. They have no special breed or anything, and I don’t know if they would ever be adopted. One of them is overweight and had a surgery because of a broken hip. The other is underweight, I never got her to gain weight. Another one is very aggressive, so I don’t think anyone would want her. We were able to tame her with love, and she is so nice with us.
I can’r continue to live like this. I just would like my wife to be happy, and my cats to be OK. I would like my daughter to grow up and play with them. But this will not happen. My wife will leave me. I won’t see my daughter grow up. So I will kill myself first. At least my wife will have my life insurance. I just hope she will continue to hate me and won’t miss me. I hope she will find someone else and be happy. I don’t know what will happen to my cats, but if they die, at least I will be with them again, and I will be able to take care of them.
Thank you for reading my story. Good bye.
3 comments
marriage stress because of cats? Seriously? I know you love your cats…. but your wife…. and your daughter… arent they more important? If it is cats that are ruing your marriage, get ridof the cats. People (most) are worth more than cats. My wife was a **** and left me because of her selfishness, continues to be a demon (and I believe she is demon possessed).
You complain about cats? Really? Hell, if you love your wife and kid, the cats need to go.
But you haven’t explored all of your options yet….
Why don’t you put 3 cats up for adoption and just keep 1? Then maybe your wife can get the little dog she wanted from the start? That way, you’ll have what you want (a cat’s company) and she’ll have what she wants. Saying goodbye to pets is hard, but think of what repercussions your death would have on your daughter? She may even grow up to be depressed and suicidal too because of the gaping hole your absence would leave in her life. Suicide runs in families. Do you want to be the person who begins this chain of devestation in your family?
Maybe there is more to the story on both sides, that you just can’t see yet. That does sound a little extreme to leave someone because of cats. She might really going trough some stuff (probably not your fault).