going through some shit in life and the more I try to not think about it and distract myself from it and keep my mind from thinking about everything by staying in my room and reading a book or whatever(flight)… more im encouraged to go out, see the world and live and feel better(fight) I don’t want to go out, I want to simply stay where I am.. I find myself fighting better by fleeing.. is this normal? is this even right?
PS- I think like this because when I’ll go out to run.. I’ll just keep thinking of everything(I know coz I tried) but when I’m alone and say reading or watching a tv show I just don’t think about stuff and feel sane
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There is nothing wrong with reading or watching a TV show to relax or distract yourself. I’d rather have something to divert my attention than constantly think about it. Just be mindful, and I’ve learned this time after time, that problems and stress don’t disappear without paying some attention to them. I know you wrote that you’re going through some stuff in life… and you definitely need a break from it. At some point, it might be helpful to work on a strategy for getting through it. If you’d like to talk more about what’s going on, you’ll find a good amount of support here.
thanks distant.road.. yes, people here are helpful and supportive so I tend to vent here.. anyway yes, I know you have to face what troubles you and I’m doing my bit for that.. it’s just that I don’t want to be told continuously to head out and act like nothing’s happened.. I can’t do that so I got frustrated
Some people will always give you advice on a simplistic level…. even if it doesn’t help or, worse yet, aggravates things. If you get some bad advice, and we all do, try to ignore it. There is no cookie-cutter one-size-fits-all solution… and someone who suggests there is doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
I’ve learned that I can’t control the actions or words of other people… so I try to laugh when they say something off the wall… I mean… I’ll be honest… telling someone to ignore their problems is just silly. Don’t get me wrong… There are some problems that are minor and you have to pick your battles in life… but major life issues won’t disappear because we wish them away.
Absolutely! because for them, the problem is simple with a simple solution. I wish it were that easy..
Truthfully speaking, I know some issues don’t go away and you’ve got to handle them but if we have our defense mechanisms for problems of magnitude..we should be just left alone coz company can just make you feel worse(even if they don’t intend to) I mean if aint broke, don’t fix it right..