In my opinion, suicide, is NOT selfish. It is something someone does when they no longer can take it.
All the :
Be happy
Get counselor help
Start working out/new diet
Change yourself
IS ALL BULLSHIT. To some people it doesn’t help.
Have had 4 or 5 counselors. My first one at the of…8? Now I am 20 years old.
I didn’t finish high school. Moved away from my parents when I turned 18 to a different country. Became homeless on and off..for over a year. Slept with men for money/food/place to stay. Found a shitty job in the end. 9 months later I just provide to myself that I can’t be stuck in such dead end job. It drives me even more insane ( or rather makes me even more depressed).
Currently I live with my boyfriend, do nothing, am unemployed.
I no longer know what to do. I will be moving to another country to my brother (also moved away from my parents/our birth place).
But how will that help? Who will hire me with no proper experience? I can’t live off of my brother(he doesn’t know how low I am right now). Â I’ve worked as a sales assistant/then became a manager of one of their smaller branches. But who the fuck cares.
I don’t see myself doing anything anymore.
I can’t push myself to do anything.
Why do I need to suffer just to keep someone happy? How is suffering for others good? They can’t help. Talking to people about my depression doesn’t help.
I still have no money and no qualifications. Talking to someone doesn’t change that.
Sooner or later I will kill myself. I never believed in myself making after 18.
Why do I even… try to change things when I get a tiny bit of inspiration..when I know that my depression will tear it apart in less than a month?
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Why do they say “it’s selfish?”
That’s a complex question. It all comes down to the indoctrinated paradigm where people are taught to believe that everyone should be “selfless,” and always try to do everything for everyone else. People use “selfish” as an insulting criticism, as an attempt to manipulate your perspective into something more beneficial, or less detrimental, to themselves… which is ironic, because by calling other people “selfish” in such a way, you’re actually demonstrating your own selfishness.
People SHOULD be “selfish.” They should look out for themselves. They should prioritize themselves, over all else. Because, that’s the only way to ensure personal growth and development, not to mention survival.
Suffering for others’ IMPROVEMENTS, can be good… but if you’re suffering just because other people prefer you remain in the unacceptable conditions you can’t tolerate, then that’s stupid. It’s good to help people who can’t help themselves… (and i realize evolution would likely disagree) but it’s not good to be duped into expending your time and energy for the purpose of padding the surplus of the already advantaged.
You’re right though: it’s hard to keep moving forward, when you know what you’re trying to build will become destabilized and likely compromised, due to observable conditions beyond your control. It’s hard to keep trying to build stuff that’s only going to break. It’s even harder to control enough of the environment well enough to ensure the safety of anything you build.
In some way it is selfish because you’re hurting people around you who loved you when you chose to kill yourself.
BUT, personally I really hate the “suicide is selfish” argument. Why should we carry on with a miserable and hopeless existence, pretending to be happy just to please people around us.
I don’t believe counselling works most of the time. No therapist or medication can take it out of you or wave a wand and make everything perfect. When you’ve tried your best and feel you can’t go on, I don’t believe anyone should try to play hero and save you.
When a person is suicidal it’s hard to understand just how unhappy and depressed they are.
I feel like my life is going nowhere, as I’m 21 years with no job and still living with my parents. All my siblings moved out at a younger age and have jobs and are fairly successful. I can’t function normally in society and I know it’s never going to change.
I never asked to be born I have the right to end my life if I choose to