If this is still happening you need to tell the authorities. I know it’s scary, and painful, and enraging, but you cannot remain silent. Call the police, don’t stay in the same house. Find a way out.
Stand up to him! My story is the same but different… Yeah but secretly call 911 when your in the restroom or something. Or when your stupid dad isn’t there..
Of course the fear of retaliation, feelings of guilt (like it’s your fault – but it is NOT), family consequences or even the fear of ending up in foster care; these are all legitimate fears. But please consider how important it is to stop him from continuing to hurt you.
Regardless, remember you do have the power to stop this and the best thing you can do for yourself is to get help. It is not easy – believe me when I tell you I know. My ex’s brother got to her, her sister and to two of my children. That’s two generations of victims.
Finding help from a local advocacy or organization that works to prevent this sort of abuse might be better than just calling the police. In any event I sincerely hope you can get the help you need to end the situation and have justice served.
I’ve never called the police on my father because I think the fallout from it would be worse as I don’t have evidence and I know he’ll walk scot free. He’ll come straight for me after.
The system here is against us in NZ though, not sure what its like for you. There has to be proof beyond a doubt for anyone to get justice. You need to pin him down with something strong or leave. I don’t know your age but its harder to get justice if you are older, the system threshold is lower for younger people (particularly kids) disclosing sex abuse.
Post here if things get tricky, we will support you.
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Report him to the police. It’s a very evil, sick thing he’s doing to you, only you can stop him by telling the authorities.
If this is still happening you need to tell the authorities. I know it’s scary, and painful, and enraging, but you cannot remain silent. Call the police, don’t stay in the same house. Find a way out.
Please tell the police about this immediately!
Yeah agree with everyone else, go to the police. Where’s you mom (or siblings) in all this?
Stand up to him! My story is the same but different… Yeah but secretly call 911 when your in the restroom or something. Or when your stupid dad isn’t there..
sometimes its not that easy- “just goto the police”
yeah.. I Know I tried It. Sorry My Sister Was Hurting Me With Words.. :'(
Of course the fear of retaliation, feelings of guilt (like it’s your fault – but it is NOT), family consequences or even the fear of ending up in foster care; these are all legitimate fears. But please consider how important it is to stop him from continuing to hurt you.
Regardless, remember you do have the power to stop this and the best thing you can do for yourself is to get help. It is not easy – believe me when I tell you I know. My ex’s brother got to her, her sister and to two of my children. That’s two generations of victims.
Finding help from a local advocacy or organization that works to prevent this sort of abuse might be better than just calling the police. In any event I sincerely hope you can get the help you need to end the situation and have justice served.
– peace
I’m sorry if this comment upsets you:
I’ve never called the police on my father because I think the fallout from it would be worse as I don’t have evidence and I know he’ll walk scot free. He’ll come straight for me after.
The system here is against us in NZ though, not sure what its like for you. There has to be proof beyond a doubt for anyone to get justice. You need to pin him down with something strong or leave. I don’t know your age but its harder to get justice if you are older, the system threshold is lower for younger people (particularly kids) disclosing sex abuse.
Post here if things get tricky, we will support you.