I’m stuck and can’t move on. It’s been a long time since I wrote some small stuff here, but…
The problem is: I’m a loving partner to my man, but he doesn’t need my help (he told me) in anything. Sometimes it seems he doesn’t need me at all. He’s got this depression and I’m trying to make him feel better, give him some positive outlooks on life and smile a bit, but he keeps telling me it’s of no use and that he’d understand if I found another man- in a way he told me to do it. Also, he begs me not to care about him.But I do care about the people I love. He’d rather be dead that keep on living in this wordly mess. (what if he’s right? is living worth it?) I’m kinda deep down because of it, I’m tired and so…fighting my own depression, too.
can u help when your help is unwanted?
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He probably just wants you to give up on him so it’s easier for him to give up on himself.
Yes you can help, but you have to know what enabling behaviour is and avoid it.
If you are both depressed then it’s easy to get in a feedback loop of sadness.
I would suggest finding a therapist that specializes in treating depression and would agree to see you both at the same time.
Or smoke some nice weed together strong THC helps with depression like sour diesel or cheese white widow if u r strictly anti herb I can say what helps with my depression and chronic pain if u think I’m talking rubbish feel free to check out the cannabis museum website it explains a lot. TBH I tried to ******** gas myself today, yep that depressed but I have sorted it for today now I had a few spliffs and even though I’m on this site I’m actually a lot happier now it was 9hr ago gas mask inert gas regulator usually a recipe for the end but I find it amazing how something so simple can make the worst of my days acceptable