Now I don’t have calming words anymore. What a pity.
“Want a break from the ad? Watch this-”
SHUT UP
SHUT UP
At 3am in the morning I rise from my bed after having screamed in my head at the person upstairs for hours and hours. Awake. No sleep.
They were stomping, and pacing around abnormally, and it was terrible. The bedroom becomes a torture chamber with the sordid bass of their footstep thudding in my head, and I tried to block out the noise in vain for it was inhumanly disturbing-
I rose and put on my coat and headed out the corridor and as I started down the stairs, someone also started down the stairs one story above mine.
From the room directly above mine.
I waked faster and faster and found myself out in the cool night- no morning- air and then the guy, called Ben, came out after me.
I walked and he came up from behind me, stomping. His arms swinging wildly, incoherently, unnaturally. It was like a comically grotesque exaggeration of the swing in the arms while walking.
He came up beside me, stomping, and smiled.
He smiled and said hi.
So while my inner monologue was still a mess of “fuck fuck fuck I can’t deal with this” I didn’t say a word. I couldn’t bring myself to look at the person who mentally tortured me for most of the night.
And so he found his group of friends and they greeted him as if it was all completely normal.
I cannot stand this university!
I cannot stand this university!
I cannot stand this silence!
Broken by the furious pounding of the keyboard with my furious fingertips that would have been better off flipping off that person
So I have lectures that I am supposed to attend yes today this morning but I will DIE DIE DIEDI*E yes die if I had to go without sleep and awake for so long
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This anger. Long time no see. You make me feel alive but I AM SILENT RAGE
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I won’t try to blame anyone, no not anymore, we are all at fault and whatever love and mercy and grace are they do not change as much as our actual behavior as the mind
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Help
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My mind is at rage and I fear it will turn against myself soon#
-HELP
6 comments
There’s nothing like bad neighbors living above you and you can hear all the noise. But actually you don’t have to put up with it, you can first try calmly speaking to the person, explain your situation and how you can’t sleep. If the noise continues, immediately call the police.
Start recording the sounds and the times they occur-perhaps you have an app on your cellphone that can do that. This way you have proof, so if the police warn him but he continues after you can give them the evidence.
Having lived in my own share of noisy apartments, I can relate, I can also tell you that you’ll survive. For me it was like my Vietnam, like being in a war-zone. Also buy a good set of ear-plugs, they make a huge difference. If that’s not enough they have those headsets that construction workers use. They might not be too comfortable but you’ll get your precious needed sleep. Don’t let it drive you crazy-be proactive, do something about it.
Last resort you can always find another apartment or stay at a friend’s or motel for a night for a break or sleep in your car if you have one. Don’t despair, just find a way to solve the problem.
I’ll add it won’t help to scream at someone, they’ll get defensive, angry and will not have any sympathy for you-might even make it worse. If they’re not the owners of the house/apt then that’s even better, complain to the owner or superintendent-they will take action.
A relative was at university, she had a similar problem at an apt, they guy was an asshole-however they were about to evict him from the apt but my relative was finished her program and told them not to bother, otherwise he would’ve been out.
One last point to add, it is a crime to disturb the peace, esp at night, the law is on your side-so don’t be afraid of these shitheads. In fact the less cooperative they are the better, since it’ll force the police to act against them.
I like your posts so much, when I log on I find myself actively searching for them, to see if you made a new
I had a a noisy upstairs neighbour that drove me nuts,
never mind that when they dropped something it would feel like a ginormous gong, or walking around with shoes on my ears would be like bursting. No these fuckers loved to party, play music, with a fucn subwoofer (which should be illegal in any old apartment complex btw), that they might as well have cut out a whole in the floor and pointed directly downwards to my skull.
It came to the point where it was so bad it made me overcome my anxiety, and contact them and the building manager, to give formal notice of noise complaint, nothing happened, neighbours ignored everything, niceties were wasted for months.
Until one day I exploded, I couldn’t take the pain and the noise of it any more. Almost kicking down their down I yelled and screamed at them, threatening their lives, graphically in horrific ways to paint them a nice picture, (ofc I could never actually harm anyone), whilst ensuring them that I would be fine, since at best I would get off on an easy “insane in the moment” plea, and at worst I would just get send back to the facility for another temporary vacation
Some people don’t get shit, not even simply things like manners, and mustering up the courage and being polite can be a futile effort on those people..
But after my little tantrum, boy, never heard a peep from them again, until some years later they moved.
I get what you are going through, i live in apartment and guy on top of my room is going to work 3am mytime and it fucks my sleeping so badly that i have started sleeping during day because i cant get enough sleep during night thanks to this guy thumping around, i would recommend asking him to stop thumping loudly at night and to buy pair some good earplugs and try to get sleep…
Thank you for your support and messages! I will find some earplugs.