Hi, my name is Tasha, and I’m, I don’t know, new here? I stumbled across this website while researching overdose methods. This seems like the perfect place to let everything out, I guess. So I guess I’ll start from the beginning. When I was six years old, I was living with my mother and step dad, Jason. Jason always made me uncomfortable and then one day it happened. He molested me. It lasted for a little over a year. My mother was always too high to ever care or even notice. When I moved back with my dad, everyone noticed how I wasn’t the same, so they put me in therapy. I’ve been in therapy ever since. For about 11, almost 12 years now. I’ve been institutionalized a few times. I even spent an entire year in a long term treatment center. Some of it genuinely helped, but I guess not enough. Now here I am, almost a year after being released from the treatment center, and I’m still having suicidal thoughts, cutting pretty often, falling back into my eating disorder habits, and going out to parties and getting high, drunk, hooking up with people I’ll never see again. I’ve lost myself and I don’t know if I’ll ever find myself again.
-Tash
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Sorry to hear your painful situation. I never experienced sexual abuse. I am from a loving family. Yet I am planning suicide soon, after 38 years of mental torture. Did you ever get justice i.e police/courts? I know it will never be true justice….but hopefully you know what I mean.
He’s in prison for life, but for a different reason. So it means almost nothing to me. I am glad that he can’t do that to anyone else, yes. But I just wish there was some sort of justice that would have an affect on him.
I’ve got personal experience with this, and I’ve had many friends who struggle with the same thing.
I personally was molested by numerous people over a course of a few years when I was very young.
Sadly, I think that a lot of it is that the generations that came before us were dealing with pedophilia that occured in their childhoods. And our generation, rather than promulgate that suffering choose to turn our pain inward. It’s more common than people care to admit. But it’s very brave of you to share your story.
I think that the best thing to acknowledge is that that person had a genuine mental illness. Targeting children is usually a symptom of that person trying to re-experience their own sexual abuse to learn to deal with those feelings. Luckily we can be more intelligent than those people and learn that we don’t have to do that. We can heal once we can forgive which is important.
But also, let’s not let it change our perspective of love. Sexual intimacy is a beautiful and neccessary part of human life. It’s how two people who are in love express intimate feelings. No child should have to experience that, especially with someone who’s mentally ill. It’s not fair to us. But we can recover and learn to see sex in a healthy way. It usually takes a lot of therapy and a lot of solid friendships. But it’s possible. Don’t give up on your life just yet. Your journey to recovery is still maturing with your understanding. Eventually you’ll be more wise, understanding, and compassionate than others who haven’t experienced what you have.
It’s not your fault that it happened. Find a friend who can support you. When it starts to affect your self esteem or body image let this friend know exactly why. And if you feel like, “Oh, I can’t open up to someone like that. I have that problem every day.” that’s not a good way to think about it. You don’t have to call them every thirty minutes about how it’s a problem.
Just let them know, “Hey, I’ve been having this problem and usually it lasts about five to seven days. So if you could just check on me, and make sure I’m doing okay every once in awhile until then, that would help a ton.” And you only have to do that every once in a while before they understand that it’s an ongoing struggle that you’re working on and they’ll get the message to be more involved. But it’s a process. Don’t expect everything to fall into place immediately. Sometimes it does, but in my experience it doesn’t usually.
From someone who’s been there, we can do this. History is history, and only we can navigate the future of our lives.
I am very sorry to hear that you were abused when you were young > and its completely understandable that it has really messed things up for you. I was abused in many ways as a child too. and for the longest time > I was all messed up mentally and emotionally and other wise. I too spend years washing away the pain with alcohol and other vices. Later on in life I was able to forgive the people that abused me and move on. Still to this day I do suffer some low self esteem and sometimes have anxiety issues when I think about the abuse > but for the most part I am able to keep my mind off it and go out and have a normal life. Thanks for sharing your story.
I bet you feel better talking about it here. What I would like to say is > YES i know its hard to carry on > but I can say that things can get better.
I have had more than 5 suicide attempts in my life > but I survived. I am now glad to be alive because I am 44 years of age now and > this past year has been the best year of my life and things are getting better for me all the time. SO I would like to encourage you to hang in there.
I wish you the best
Thank you so much for your concern. You’re right, it does help to get it out. And I am trying to hold on, I really am, but it’s getting harder and harder every day. The only thing keeping me alive, is the hope that maybe, possibly, someday, the one I love the most, the one that left me, will come back to me someday. Even though I know it will never happen, it helps to think about it sometimes…
Are you gonna let fucking Jason ruin your life? Fuck that guy.
Fun fact: I was molested by a dude named Jonas. It is like an anagram.
Sadly it wasn’t a Jonas brother
Ironically enough, this has helped the most.