Yeah, I had to stop watching certain shows, reading certain articles, and hanging out with certain people because I got so overwhelmed and depressed hearing about how life is so easy for them, and how everything is working out for them blah blah. Only made me feel like an inadequate loser who can’t accomplish anything.
Same here.. I shut my social media and my contacts for six months now. I’m a big time loser and can’t take control of anything happening to me. To most people I’m dead already.
You are not alone,….. in researching social anxiety and why I’m inherently unlikable I came across a study,….a psychologist exposed his subjects to two groups of interviews. one group would fumble and spill a coffee the others did not. When polled who was more likable the imperfect coffee spillers won every time. (I’m by far not perfect but have been told I come off as arrogant so same thing I guess) other people’s success makes them unlikable even to “normal” people
That’s just jealousy, no ? And jealousy is a hallmark of the ego.
When I look at so called “successful” people, I feel sympathy, because “success” is one of the most misunderstood words in the language, and the more “success” one has, the deeper the delusion, the more elaborate the outer appearance they generally have to put on, and the more stress and anxiety that rules their “life”.
These people are hamsters on a treadmill, and there’s no telling when they’ll be thrown off.
The language would be better off without empty words like “success” and “hope” and “optimism”. They cause a lot of unnecessary suffering.
Dpt59kasd-do you think it has to do with appearing self assured/self controlled? Do you remember the study? People like me if I am entertaining them (I can be funny when I’m not mentally exhausted), but as for liking me just for me? IDK: does anyone know me post suicide attempt? Mmmm. Only enough to want to “fix” me. Rambling. sorry.
@SwishAL: usually I can feel happy for the person, but sometimes, it feels as if someone sucker punched me in the gut as I was turning around and I can’t breathe. It just takes everything out of me: hope, enthusiasm, dedication. It takes me a long time to get over it, too. like I’m deflated and there’s just not enough air. Do you feel guilty about feeling that way? I hate being a hater. I’d rather be an encourager, but geez, sometimes it feels like if I had a gun, I’d end it right then and there.
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Yeah, I had to stop watching certain shows, reading certain articles, and hanging out with certain people because I got so overwhelmed and depressed hearing about how life is so easy for them, and how everything is working out for them blah blah. Only made me feel like an inadequate loser who can’t accomplish anything.
I feel the same way but mostly annoyed?
Oh to feel the joy of not having depression and suicidal idiations. :/
Lucky assholes!
Same here.. I shut my social media and my contacts for six months now. I’m a big time loser and can’t take control of anything happening to me. To most people I’m dead already.
You are not alone,….. in researching social anxiety and why I’m inherently unlikable I came across a study,….a psychologist exposed his subjects to two groups of interviews. one group would fumble and spill a coffee the others did not. When polled who was more likable the imperfect coffee spillers won every time. (I’m by far not perfect but have been told I come off as arrogant so same thing I guess) other people’s success makes them unlikable even to “normal” people
That’s just jealousy, no ? And jealousy is a hallmark of the ego.
When I look at so called “successful” people, I feel sympathy, because “success” is one of the most misunderstood words in the language, and the more “success” one has, the deeper the delusion, the more elaborate the outer appearance they generally have to put on, and the more stress and anxiety that rules their “life”.
These people are hamsters on a treadmill, and there’s no telling when they’ll be thrown off.
The language would be better off without empty words like “success” and “hope” and “optimism”. They cause a lot of unnecessary suffering.
Dpt59kasd-do you think it has to do with appearing self assured/self controlled? Do you remember the study? People like me if I am entertaining them (I can be funny when I’m not mentally exhausted), but as for liking me just for me? IDK: does anyone know me post suicide attempt? Mmmm. Only enough to want to “fix” me. Rambling. sorry.
@SwishAL: usually I can feel happy for the person, but sometimes, it feels as if someone sucker punched me in the gut as I was turning around and I can’t breathe. It just takes everything out of me: hope, enthusiasm, dedication. It takes me a long time to get over it, too. like I’m deflated and there’s just not enough air. Do you feel guilty about feeling that way? I hate being a hater. I’d rather be an encourager, but geez, sometimes it feels like if I had a gun, I’d end it right then and there.