I had multiple guys contact me, but then I felt emotionally exhausted because I never juggled with so many guys. Flipping through the emails and it’s hard to remember things about each guy. Not to mention, they have to be aware that they flake out, or things don’t work out.
I met a guy today, and we ended up being bored with each other, so it was quick and we shook each other hand good-bye. We really didn’t have much in common.
Plus, I need money to go and do things, but then when I have a job. It’ll be all work and no time to do anything.
I must re-think my formula and do baby steps. First, start out making friends with girls not with guys. Work on maintaining friendships first. Don’t talk too many guys at once. Use multiple web-sites. I hate taking pictures. Will that be a downfall? I need people that I can meet in real life and show to my family. Another thing, I feel so de-attached to people. What is wrong with me? Also, talk to one person for awhile like two weeks before meeting them.
Please help me!
P.S. My profile is BlueGemz on okcupid.
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My rule is no websites. I met two b/fs online, and went on dates in the past with a few people I met online. Now I’m done with that. I only talk to potential dates in person. It’s much more natural that way.
Where do I go to meet these potential dates?
No idea. I meet people at bars, at work or literally on the street who give me their numbers, so… I haven’t tried to go looking for anything, they’ve just approached me.
Airports, art galleries, bars, churches, coffee shops, pubs, restaurants, creepy abandoned trombone factories. That’s the places I have met first dates in the last three months. Uh, 3.5 months.
Sign up for (coed) activities you like. Odds are you will meet people you have something in common with.
Sounds like you have the right priorities. Make friends, build a support network. For starters this is going to be mostly women.
I couldn’t find you on OKCupid, but it probably doesn’t matter… Guys rarely read profiles. You are going to have to grit your teeth and get used to seeing yourself on screen. Take a million selfies and throw most all of them away. Half of it is simply practice. So practice.
The world is completely different on the male side of the river. Women read!!! I’m ElsieSm on OKCupid. Read my profile for a laugh.
You re-attach yourself by practicing attaching. 20 years ago I’d have cold sweats before a date, now it’s no big deal. Practice.
There are all sorts of potentially datable people out there. Demonstrate empathy and compassion and only date people that demonstrate it to you. You’ll be fine!
We need to think of a name for dating site just for depressed people…
MehDate?
Sad&Lonely?
SPecialMatch?
Depresso Express?
Suicidal Smoochville?
SPecialMatch was a great laugh!
I like the Suicidal Smoochville.
SpecialMatch? Me no like that one. Depressed ppl are “special”?? Sounds like we’re special needs…
Aren’t we?
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