I have been thinking lately… Maybe too much thinking. Anyways, after socialize with new people, it is like fresh pair of glasses put on me and I see thing more clear about relationships in general. It make me notice that my behaviors in my past relationships are not exactly okay. Just because I am very close to this person but it does not make it okay… Nothing bad happen with my new friends so far. But, I see more and more examples of good relationships should look like and I am still learning.
Today I have a thought.. “Sometimes it is good to be valuable and open to your friends BUT never be too valuable.. Because irony it shows that you don’t have value in yourself if you give yourself away entirely.” Does that make sense to you guys?
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This doesn’t apply to real friends.
I have a lot of acquaintances but a few friends. 4 to be precise.
I give them a lot of value and respect and I get it back.
Also, I can degrade them as much as I want(reasonable still), they will look at me, humiliate me back, and we will laugh. That’s called making fun of each other.
You just need to identify such kind of people. And then, they are your friends.
Good luck!
Well, giving oneself away is the most precious gift. If you have value to yourself. If you don’t value yourself then I don’t think you really have anything to give.
But you also need the balance of receiving from others. But you can’t just take it. It must be offered and accepted freely.
Or not. Just thinking.