I’m aware some people think this is a myth but I known of many people that struggle with their gender identity.
Personally I really don’t identify as a female but also I don’t have characteristics of a male. Recently I thought perhaps I’m adrogenous. So like both but neither. I think it’s a result of trauma and things in the past but also I just never wanted to be female. I wouldn’t get a sex change either though… anyone know much about this topic?
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Damn that must be really hard. Maybe try to speak to some psychologist, do some therapy or idk. I dont know anything about this so I cant really give you any advice. I know I am a male, just a very pathetic one.
Perhaps you possess qualities that society doesn’t see as inherently masculine? If depression makes you feel pathetic I think I can understand completely. But often in men I find people expect them the be unemotional and untrue to themselves as human beings. Break freeee 🙂 Yeah I need to see a therapist, I’m already working through loads of other mental health things though, it’s put my life and personal growth on hold.
What does being ‘female’ mean to you, that you don’t want to identify with it? What does being ‘male’ mean to you, that you don’t think you have any of the characteristics of? Why not just be who you want to be, and recognize that that can change over time? Isn’t all the rest just labels? Though if you need labels, what you’re looking for is genderqueer or non-binary (or possibly genderfluid.)
Yeah 🙂 Labels are just boxes we put people and ourselves in. Like cages, maybe thats what I can’t identify with. I would love to just be myself. I think the most difficult thing is people treating different genders differently, seeing completely different behavioir as either an indicator or good or bad nature. I know judgement is nothing but I really get to observe how gender inequality is a thing. Others don’t see it, we are so constricted by the black and white way most of society sees each other. I know people that still can’t handle that some people are gay… it’s like they can’t see past that veil society places over us all. Life is about becoming the truest version of ourselves, surely?
Dealing with the expectations others put on you is tough. I guess be yourself as much as you can get away with in any given situation, while still pursuing the things you want from life? If people simply must fit you into a box in their minds, I guess you could tell them you’re a tomboy?
i believe there are more than two genders.
i assume you were assigned female at birth? there are many gender identities that you’re able to identify as. i’ve also questioned my gender as i don’t feel fully female, but, who does feel fully [their gender]? but, i identify as female as i don’t experience gender dysphoria.
figuring out your gender identity is an experience and a process that is different for everyone.
i recommend doing your research and taking your time. you’ll figure it out in the end, don’t worry.
Yeah I’m assigned female but … I feel happiest when people can’t tell which one I am (usually when I drop in weight). I think it is normal to recognise society is a bunch of mindwashery that people fearfully abide by… so by deduction it makes sense that very few people fit into the black and white gender roles/behaviours and even sexuality (but that’s a different topic entirely). With me though, I have actively rejected the ideas of appearing female, everywhere I look I don’t understand why people aspire to that. I played on it a bit growing up, getting things that I wanted but quickly I learnt how much I was disrespecting my own sense of self. I don’t feel much remorse for the people who fell for it but honestly if you knew my past you’d understand. I’m also not drawn to being masculine in a traditional sense, I am drawn to that inbetween or neither. It’s difficult to explain. It’s probably my need to be free from those societal expectations. People I’ve been with compare me to a teenage boy, I’d just be inphased, it felt better than “you’re pretty”. Have you ever resented that very limited set of compliments for female? Why so much emphasis on the outward appearance:/ ? What things do you not identify with being female, may I ask?
i don’t know. it’s kind of off to me to think ‘i’m fully female’, about myself, but, i don’t feel bad or dysphoric identifying as female. so, i do identify as female. if that makes sense?
I tend to observe that in general gay men have certain feminine physical characteristics and gay women more masculine physical characteristics. Of course it is all a spectrum and actually there are multiple spectrums which intersect.
Knowing this then it;s not difficult to imagine that somewhere in this web of intersecting spectrums is a point in which the individual does not strongly identify with either gender.
in the past these issues where not humored so people experiencing these situations where simply forced to fall to one side or otherwise force themsleves into the appropriate societal mold
more recently these things are taken more liberally and those experiencing these less common gender or sexual differences are able to express and develop an identity including them which may make it appear as though these people sprang up over night when in fact they;ve always been around.
just my take as a in between masculine/feminine gay male.
Yeahh, we should just be free to be ourselves. The world is more liberal of these things now but there’s still a long way to go… I wish people were more open to the possibilities of how different people can be, it applies to so many things though I guess, not just gender and sexuality. matters of an indivuals identity should be celebrated, I know the only true education is self education.
It’s interesting how sexuality affects masculine and feminine tendencies, naturally I think everyone is at least a bit bisexual and many people consider what it would be like to be a different gender at some point..infact I think it would seem weird for people to never question it all. I guess people who think people who accept different identities are appearing from nowhere have been living in societies illusion of ‘normal’.