I was invited to dinner this evening by five normies. Almost all conversation was about their problems. The problems with their children, their pets, their jobs. I, once actively suicidal and still not convinced that deliberate human reproduction is ethical, would keep trying to steer conversation back to positive things. But each time, they where soon back to telling their stories of woe.
In contrast, I have been out on several occasions with actively suicidal people. They too talked about their problems. But there was a telling difference in the problems being shared. The actively suicidal talked about problems, or the results of problems, that they never had the slightest choice about.
It was hard for me to have empathy for these normies as they expressed their woes. Before I touch on their woes let me just say I have known each one for some years. Starting with their child raising and child related issues, most, and perhaps all, of these issues would not exist if birth control had been in use. Knowing them as I do, I feel they chose to reproduce and therefore chose the problems sure to come with that choice to make a family.
Then they droned on at some length about their pets. Well…
Oh and their jobs. I am no stranger to job related degradation and sexual harassment myself, but most of us, including them, could go somewhere else to work with at least a hope for a better environment to work in.
Thus, I am glad to be back home, in front of my screen, hanging out with people who got hit (literally or otherwise) with trauma and whose pain is largely not by their own choosing.
Thanks for reading my rant.
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Well, that’s the reason I still come to this website although I am not suicidal at all. I believe that you people are better than the normies, actually much better.
I don’t like most of the normies. I prefer to read your deep stories and give you some hope in this existence. May you experience some peace.
I have to take normies in small doses. When doing so I try to remember: they are no more responsible for their humane (hopefully!) early years and perhaps even good fortune afterwards than any of us are responsible for our inhumane early years (if that is when it happened) and some unavoidable trauma later in life too.
Normies don’t seem to think as we do so I find them challenging to be around and sometimes I envy them, that is until I see what they usually heap on themselves. But what I never get is why they bring avoidable trouble into their relatively peaceful lives. It baffles me.
We can’t rewrite our pasts, we can only try and hope for reprocessing the awful experiences that brought us here.
I wouldn’t even have been able to attend dinner. Just thinking about it makes my skin crawl. How. . . normal.
As for choices and their consequences, I’ve done my children the biggest favor I could ever choose for them – not creating them. No need to heap my bloodlines crap on the innocent.
The Parent of the Year Award should always go to a kid-free person.
Give me suicidal people over normies any day of the week!
Absolutely. The ‘cides, whether actively considering it or the ones who, as far as they know, have made living peace with their wounds, have a depth and dimensions to them second to none.
Haha 🙂 I suppose they offer you something, since you hang out with them?
They are friends, so they offer friendship. I do appreciate that, but they do take a lot out me just by listening to them (thankfully not too often) as I always want to tell them things like “your issues surrounding your children could have been avoided with about a 97% probability”, “those pet issues were obvious immediately, and had timely adoption been arranged, perhaps someone else could actually be enjoying those pets right now”, “getting out of a soul killing job may not be easy but you owe it to yourself to find a way out”. But of course the children are born already, so that is that. Attachment to those particular pets was started and firmed up without counting the real costs first. They seem to think jobs can be extremely painful year after as long as the benefits package is right for them and their family and yet it apparently never occurred to them before making those families or taking in those pets just how personally pricey it would all be until the price was upon them. I can only guess, just guess, that their parents made all this look like the ONLY way to go. My brain hurts!