There’s nothing you can do!
Ever.
At all!
I’m not here to win an award for popularity or most depressed.
I would ask what you all expect but from experience I already know.
You can’t choose everything and life isn’t easy. Pills will only ever do so much.
Life sucks and I wanna die too but I find more and more happiness every day because I choose too.
I don’t wallow in it and I don’t choose a victims mentality.
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Who are you talking to exactly? Everyone who is depressed and suicidal? Maybe this site isn’t for you if you get upset at others being unable to find happiness after all their strife.
According to him you just smile and everything will be all right.
Again, people need a reason to be happy. I’m sure even you need a reason to be happy.
So if life sucks and you want to die, how about changing your life so life no longer sucks and you no longer want to die?
^ Since you are gonna talk about the victim mentality and not wallowing in it.:P
So lots of people here think that life sucks and want to die. That doesn’t mean that they have a victim mentality. Oh remember that you are different though. You chose to be happy!
Nobody here wants people to feel sorry for them and pity them.
I do think that some people here probably do need to try and do more about their situation to try to improve it. But its a very vicious cycle. If it was as easy as just being ‘happy’, wow not many would be here. I think at the least people need the purpose and motivation to actually do something.
And in many circumstances, they are very difficult to navigate and sometimes due to poor decision making or poor circumstances its not really viable to change.
After all nobody asked to be born. And so people really do have the right to so called ‘complaining’. Life shouldn’t be forced on anyone.
I wrote this while half asleep so…
I never said it was easy, or that all you do is smile or that anyone here wants attention.
I’m simply saying you have to choose happiness over depression.
I have nothing against being happy but what is the point of being happy when there are so many that like to make you feel bad about yourself we don’t know each other but you speak truth in your words at the end of this I just want purpose and not be alive if I can’t be useful.
Why let them make you feel anything? Why let your feelings run you or your life?
Do you want to be happy?
Happiness is a very fragile I know it won’t be easy any that is worth living for isn’t meant to easy if it was then everyone will be happy.
Are you saying merely choosing happiness makes happiness?
What exactly do you mean by “wallow”?
I’m saying depression chooses us everyday. Most if not all of us here. We as well need to choose to give in to depression or to choose first to be happy. That’s just the first move. Then you have to make moves to be happy. IT’S NOT EASY TO DO BUT…its easy enough to understand. Its as easy to start doing as saying “I want to be happy.” and smiling but you have to work at it like everything.
And by wallow I am talking about maintaining that depression. Walking with it all day. Focusing on depression and depressing things.
It used to depress me to go to the beach by myself because I was alone. That was a month ago. Now Im fine with it because I choose to not give into depression when I can simply focus on enjoying the beach even when its boring.
I personally don’t have too much of a problem with loneliness just emptiness bothers me more than oh do you ever feel lonely?
The answer is always the same with me no emptiness is worse.
I was once sad, very sad. Depressed. I did something about it. Got married. I was so happy!! For awhile..
Then I was sad again , very sad. Depressed. I did something about it. I joined the military. I loved it!! I was so happy, for awhile…
Then I was sad again , very sad. Depressed. But I did something about it. I reproduced. I was over the moon!!! I was so happy, for awhile…
Then I was sad again , very sad. Depressed. But I did something about it. I took up an awesome hobby. I was so excited about it. I was so happy, for awhile…
The pattern is easy to see. I finally had to admit that no other person and no activity that I could think of, was going to address the underlying issues. I am finally in therapy after multiple marriages, nice cars, nice homes, exciting businesses, on and on ad nauseum. I am doing something about that depression in the form of therapy now but let tell you it is full of twists and turns and challenges. Well worth it.
Doing something from your activity list or mine, you have a nice activity of going to the beach for example, does give the mood a lift, and that is wonderful, but this old boy has found it is going to take activities that are obviously helpful plus therapy. Ok that took most of life time to discover.
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That’s awesome! Really awesome!
I don’t so much try to make myself happy as much as I don’t allow myself to sit in depression/sadness/misery and it works better.
We all should learn that it’s all about what we can do for ourselves and not material items or places or others to rely on to be happy. We need to learn to use what we can. I wasn’t happy but I wasn’t sad.