I am so tired of hearing “You are not alone,” or “you’re not the only one.” When in fact anytime I try to explain the reason my existence pains me to ANYONE I’m ridiculed and/or shamed. Don’t even get me started on how many times I’ve been told that I’m “just being negative,” and “it’s all in my head, so all I have to do is just think positive.” If I’m not the only one going through this shit, how come no one else can relate?
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I don’t know the problem so I can’t say if anyone can relate. However to a degree someone can relate. With all the people in the world someone has to have a slight idea. But at the same time everyone experiences things differently so it really all depends.
Yes on some level. But even groups that council those who have been victims of sexual abuse all the members have a will to live that I simply just do not posses so it’s not like they can ever relate to me fully.
That’s how life works. We’re not all so individual as you might expect. When people say those encouraging things, you can think about it like self-talk. They’re telling themselves not to worry about it because they can understand the experience. Who can blame them? But at the same time, it’d be nice if people could be honest about it. We’d all probably sound insane if we were all honest like that, which just goes to show how rare sanity actually is.
I think anyone can relate in a generic textbook way. Most people know what it feels like to experience the death of a loved one, or close friend, so we can “relate” to the feelings of sadness and loss, but we can’t relate to the exact nature of the relationship, and those details are what made the experience personal and unique. Your suffering, your experiences are intimately known only to you, which automatically excludes all others from being able to fully relate to your pain in anything other than a generic way. I don’t know how many times I left a therapists office thinking to myself that they just didn’t get it, because they’re on the outside looking in. It makes a huge difference.
Well then, it’s obvious they don’t care about you. It is not their job or even any effort to them to have to care about you. You are nothing but a burden to them. They are obsessed with themselves and would never be willing to lend a willing ear. Be careful lest you burden these folks, or they may turn it on you and murder you.
These people shrugging off your problems and not hearing you out is a way of them saying they don’t even see you and if you disappeared they would not notice or care. So get out of their hair.