I destroyed that relationship so hard.
I was so scared of losing him that I ended up hurting him.
He was the first guy who liked me for more than just my body…
I know what I have to do forgive myself.
I’m talking to a guy now who only likes me for my body. I’m deeply uncomfortable with talking to him, but it’s what I have to do.
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Ok. I need you to get out of the relationship you’re pursuing right now, because it’s going to create a dangerous cycle for you. Do not punish yourself. Do. Not. Punish. Yourself. You made mistakes because of anxiety and that’s normal, and it’s okay. You recognize that you didn’t mean to hurt him. And you also recognize that the person you’re currently talking to is not healthy for you. I’m telling you from the perspective of someone who’s had their ins with countless abusers, the uncomfortable feeling is a red flag and you need to get out of that asap.
i second this. ive had guys give my sick butterflies and i regret not listening to them
regardless, it’s not your fault even if you didn’t listen to the sick feeling, it’s really hard to pull away, and we never want to believe that our intuition is correct when it implies something negative/dangerous/bad
hugs
Yeah, no, don’t give a dude only interested in sex from you anymore time. I’ve been through that before and it only ends up with you being even lower than before. Ghost the dude, f him. He doesn’t deserve anything.
A bet a lot of people on here wish they were sexy enough for someone to want their body.
Love is a funny thing. Harder to find than it seems it oughta be. It’ll come around. Till then, I say you might as well enjoy yourself.
Im 45 now and I regret not having more love affairs back in the day.
you don’t need to be “sexy” for someone to want your body. the kind of guy discussed here is dangerous and abusive. they don’t like you, they only have interest in satisfying their own sexual needs. the only requirement that needs to be checked off in this situation is for someone to be human. it’s not a matter of “wow you’re beautiful,” it’s a matter of disrespect. the fact that the guy mentioned is essentially using OP for their body is beyond objectifying and disrespectful.
Thank you those who responded.
Sorry for not responding sooner.
I at least have stopped pursuing said guy.