friendships are supposed to go both ways. one supports the other when something bad happens and vice versa. but what happens when I don’t want anyone to talk to me or vent to anyone and I’m left to only give and never take. its my fault that I don’t want to take, but I don’t know what to do about it. Among other things, I feel really different from other people. I was with another person the other day and i was watching them make lunch. and they were so excited about making lunch that they would physically bounce around after they put together a three piece salad or something. After making it, they were still excited while eating it? Why? Why did the smile? It wasn’t a small smile, they were smiling because they ate it. I don’t understand. I feel a strong urge to pull away from others.
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Indeed Jesse friendships are usually a two-way street, however if you’re tired or not in the mood, or don’t want to be the ‘giver’ for whatever reason, that’s totally fine, just tell your friend you’re not feeling well and let them talk to someone else.
But do keep in mind if 90% of the time you’re leaning on others for advice or whatever, but you’re rarely there when they need you, eventually they will get fed up and stop coming back to you.
People do act strange at times also…if they irritate you, just leave the room or do something else. Nobody’s perfect but if we nitpick everything we’ll end up alone.
We need people in our lives for fun and companionship and if they’re good people they’ll help you out in other ways. Ofc if they’re toxic to your life then get rid of them, but try to have at least a dozen or so people in case you lose any over time.