Do you think it would soften the blow leaving my mom all the money ive saved over the years, tens of thousands. After i do it i mean. i cant wait til shes gone
make sure to draw up a will (can do it free online) if you want to make sure all your assets go to your mother. or i suppose you can withdraw all the funds beforehand.
thanks for the advice about the will, havent thought of it.
“cant wait til shes gone” i meant it as i thought id wait til she was gone to do it but shes too healthy, i didnt wanna maker her sad
sorry for the confusion i didnt realize itd read like that at the time
Well it’s a nice nest egg…but it’d barely cover expenses for a year, maybe two…unless you already own a house…then it’ll go further.
Always flip the question when you think about sui.cide…what if she was the one who passed away, how would you feel?
In my case, my mother is in her 70s….she’d have a very hard time living on her own and my sister would help her but I don’t know for how long… she doesn’t have the patience and sense of logic that I do. I think she and her spouse would try to shove my mom into a nursing home after a couple of years.
So I plan to wait until she’s gone first-also because she doesn’t believe in sui.cide and that makes it even worse…. but I guess maybe she might’ve taken the easy way out long ago…as her life got bad at one point…so I should be grateful as I couldn’t be where I am today without her help.
The money would help her…. but people always matter more than money, at least imo. Trust me, if you have a good relationship with her, she’d prefer you around, no amount of money could make up for it. Also who else would help or look after her if you disappeared?
I know life can be hard and all of us here have desperately wanted out of this existence at one point or another. And I understand we all have our redlines and hard limits and how much suffering we’re willing to put up with before we say ‘enough is enough’ and then seek a way out.
So ultimately that’s for you to decide…in my case my life is coasting along. I’m very far from the goal I set for myself but I’m trying to get there.
But I think my 60s is a very good age limit I’ve set for myself…because by then I should still be healthy enough to opt for Maid and the quality of life will have diminished to the point of being worthless but I’ll still be able-bodied enough to do a DiY sui.cide (in a worst case scenario)…if I don’t get Maid.
With one caveat, if my life goes off the cliff any time before then, then I will apply for Maid sooner….I really sick of struggling and suffering….there was a time I really had it good, in my late 20s, 30s.
I didn’t realize it and didn’t take full advantage of opportunities I had for work and dating….but now I’m in my 50s and no longer get chances like that anymore…though I’m still hanging in there, hoping things will improve for me.
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make sure to draw up a will (can do it free online) if you want to make sure all your assets go to your mother. or i suppose you can withdraw all the funds beforehand.
what do you mean “i cant wait til shes gone”? i thought you’re the one that’s gonna be offing yourself. usually ppl say that about someone they hate…
thanks for the advice about the will, havent thought of it.
“cant wait til shes gone” i meant it as i thought id wait til she was gone to do it but shes too healthy, i didnt wanna maker her sad
sorry for the confusion i didnt realize itd read like that at the time
well congrats for saving tens of thousands. at least that part of your life is good and money woes isn’t one of your issues.
Well it’s a nice nest egg…but it’d barely cover expenses for a year, maybe two…unless you already own a house…then it’ll go further.
Always flip the question when you think about sui.cide…what if she was the one who passed away, how would you feel?
In my case, my mother is in her 70s….she’d have a very hard time living on her own and my sister would help her but I don’t know for how long… she doesn’t have the patience and sense of logic that I do. I think she and her spouse would try to shove my mom into a nursing home after a couple of years.
So I plan to wait until she’s gone first-also because she doesn’t believe in sui.cide and that makes it even worse…. but I guess maybe she might’ve taken the easy way out long ago…as her life got bad at one point…so I should be grateful as I couldn’t be where I am today without her help.
The money would help her…. but people always matter more than money, at least imo. Trust me, if you have a good relationship with her, she’d prefer you around, no amount of money could make up for it. Also who else would help or look after her if you disappeared?
I know life can be hard and all of us here have desperately wanted out of this existence at one point or another. And I understand we all have our redlines and hard limits and how much suffering we’re willing to put up with before we say ‘enough is enough’ and then seek a way out.
So ultimately that’s for you to decide…in my case my life is coasting along. I’m very far from the goal I set for myself but I’m trying to get there.
But I think my 60s is a very good age limit I’ve set for myself…because by then I should still be healthy enough to opt for Maid and the quality of life will have diminished to the point of being worthless but I’ll still be able-bodied enough to do a DiY sui.cide (in a worst case scenario)…if I don’t get Maid.
With one caveat, if my life goes off the cliff any time before then, then I will apply for Maid sooner….I really sick of struggling and suffering….there was a time I really had it good, in my late 20s, 30s.
I didn’t realize it and didn’t take full advantage of opportunities I had for work and dating….but now I’m in my 50s and no longer get chances like that anymore…though I’m still hanging in there, hoping things will improve for me.