Does anyone else not necessarily have much concern for things like family, having a family, getting a significant other in whatever sense, and possibly maybe even friends in the traditional way? Not necessarily fervently avoiding them outright (although due to various things I guess you could say I am), and still having interactions with people whenever necessary, convenient or maybe even pleasant (depending on what counts as those things for you all), but really just not seeing the point of bonds that overstay their welcome, or usually turn out to be sour/regrettable, all of that stuff.
Of course, I wouldn’t say that healthy relationships aren’t possible for any of those things, but it still feels like nowadays I don’t want to get to know someone for “the sake of it”. With something so imprecise, planning to form lasting connections with the people around you in your physical environment that you didn’t necessarily choose so well (such as your neighbors depending on where you are located I’d guess), it just doesn’t make that much sense to me. I would argue that it never did, really. Same goes for things like marriage, especially after seeing how badly that can turn out, logically to me it feels like shooting my foot in a sense. It really brings to mind, if these bonds you are just born with instead of actively choosing for yourself can end up so detrimental some of the time, it’s hard to have any hesitance in terms of discarding them depending on your situation. Sometimes, a lot of these interactions just end up hurting both parties due to how emotionally fueled they are, and how that corresponds with a bit of irrationality (I assume) based on what I’ve seen even if it wouldn’t necessarily cause it.
Yet another one of my “bold things” I say that I will have to add to the list this time, but I don’t see the point of the above three or four groups. I feel like my life would be happier without them, and, yeah, I’m kind of assured it would be. Speaking specifically about the significant other thing, I don’t necessarily feel attraction towards other people, nor would I want to but it’s mainly the first thing. Not once have I felt like I should “get with” somebody or whatever you call it, some people propose those things and in my case you just hold it off, saying “give it a few more years” (which I shouldn’t do in such a situation most likely) or just flat out decline, not necessarily due to the person but because you don’t want to know them that way. In my case once again, I don’t want to know anybody that way. Thank the lord I don’t.
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I like having people, as an excuse. A significant other is enough for a long time. People want you to go to some dull work retreat, sorry, wife has work for me to do at home. She does not, you asked her to say that if anyone asked. You wanted out.
A similar service is provided by me for her. We both hate enough people that it really pays off. So that’s why I like having a significant other. However I was single long enough to figure out other excuses, like that I can’t be bothered to care. So I could do without, if so required.
It wasn’t something I sought out at the end there. It was something that happened. I wanted companionship because I get lonely at night after work. Some men drink, or play pool. I’ve done both, enough to be tired of them. Female companionship happened to be easier to get at the time. I would have probably been a different kind of happy with a man, because to my current purpose they would serve the same need. I like looking after people, and some people like being looked after, no shame in that.
I would also prefer it if that someday included children. However, not here. Not in this state if I can help it, because it is an awful place to be born or grow up. I don’t want a single mark from this town on me after I leave.
but I don’t care what anyone else does, in an un-uniform no standards applied to how relationships should be formed apart from with consent. That’s my only thing, consent is required, and between adults. If you don’t want traditional anything, I say rock on.